? for Spaz and anyone else who may know answer

thank you for the compliment and on chatting on the phone...good choice =)

Oh and also, We are only talking on the phone....I figure that is the best way to get to know each other again...

Thx so much spaz....I SO respect your knowledge and also to you gal for your response.

He lives out of state, and won't be here until the first of the new year. I haven't seen his sisters since high school, but have been talking on the phone to 1 of them, In reference to finding out where he was at.

I guess my question was more for in the future...If it did lead somewhere if my stbx could come back and cancel my alimony after the divorce were final (and more imporantly insurance).

Spaz.............has anyone told you lately how much you are appreciated on d360? If not, I just want to tell you, YOU ARE!

Terri

December is not that far away. The holidays and New Years eve right around the corner. New Year's is a great time to start a fresh new life and it seems to be in your time frame.
Spaz knows what she's talking about. I agree with her 100%
If this is the love you want in your life - he will wait and respect you for waiting until you are set free. You are still legally married. Are you friends with his sisters? Are they girls you were friends with while you were married and spent time with. Are the sisters and their homes a place your stbx would question? Would you feel good about spinning your own web of lies by hiding a relationship you can't have right now... I am not trying to give you a way to hang out with him. I am just curious if you are already friends with them. If his sisters are a safe setting - this will give you time to spend with his family as a whole unit setting. You can be around without dating and see if this is someone you really want to pursue and have in your life. People do change. I don't know how many years it's been since you've spent time with him but a few more months is not that far away.

 

DO NOT DATE HIM NONONONONONO!! not until your divorce is final - don't even put yourself into a situation that could seem "compromising" to a private detective. So living with him is totally out of the question.

Your settlement could include reimbursement of marital assets he wasted on his lover (lawyers still know how to get adultery into a no fault state divorce) and if you go off with some guy before you are divorced, that just cancels out his wrongdoing...and makes spousal support less.