spaz...what do you think....

My stbx makes $95,000/yr. I make (because i take care of my kids) $10,000/yr. Why is it, in Maine, i only qualify to receive $370/week..$19,000/yr in child support. i am not eligible for alimony because o fthe length of marriage. I did the math...it's correct but it doesn't seen fair. how is it right that he pockets $75,000 for himself??? We are asking for $500/month for transition (I think that's the word) I'm pretty mad. Why am I PENALIZED for leaving MY career to raise OUR children so HE can continue HIS career while I BABYSIT?????? Any thoughts??? thanks!!!

by 5babemom 283 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 2:11 PM

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Further - maine uses a age/combined income calculation, and if you had made more during the marriage, the amount would have been higher.

Once the kids get older, and you actually are more gainfully employed - you can file for a modification/increase.

The state doesn't feel it is his responsibiltiy to "pay" you to care for the kids once you are divorced. The calculations they do enforce that.

by spaznskitz 4796 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 2:53 PM

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Well, because when it comes down to it - marriage is a contract, a business contract...and as you mentioned, the length of time you were in that contract matters. It is not his job, beyond the marriage, to support you in the manner you have gotten used to.

It was your choice not to work at a job that paid more so that you could raise the kids, and based on your education and/or job skills - you apparently have the potential to earn much more than you do - and you are expected to find employment that does that, and that is why your support is what it is.

Not sure you will get the $500 transitional money - as that is spousal support, and that can be argued - but hopefully he will pony it up anyway.

BTW - don't ever call caring for your own children "babysitting"...that's just wrong.

by spaznskitz 4796 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 2:24 PM

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