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Was I abused?

I have a question, I am a male, i will admit that i dont want to have to think about this, but I am finnally trying to cope with my divorce and i need to know if what i went through counts as abuse:

        Less then a year into the realationship, we had a "Baby Scare" which really wasnt much of a scare for me, but it was for her. We traveled 20 mins away to find a clinic who could test her that same day, and when we had trouble locating said clinic, she hit me, several times, hard enough to leave bruises all over my arms.

        Then there were other times when she would get extremely emotional and angry with me (usually over minor things) and she would hit me as hard as she could in the arms.  She would always apologize afterwards, but there was always severe emotional pain caused by these hits.

 

   So i guess im wondering, 2 years after she left me, was i Physically abused?


by Munnin2   3 Posts 
Posted on 10/21/2008 11:10 AM
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The fact that she hit you is definately physical abuse. The fact that it still eats away at you mind is emotional and mental abuse. Most men do not want to admit that they were abuse by a woman. But abuse is abuse no matter who is doing the hitting. I would suggest that you get some type of therapy because this really seems to be haunting you and you need to get rid of the ghosts. Her apologies didn't take away the bruises on the outside or the inside. You need to talk to a therapist about this so you can get on with your life without these memories eating away at you.
by Cheydara   365 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 6:37 PM
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Yes, you were abused.  If you are still thinking about this you should speak with a domestic violence counselor.  There are many men who are abused and won't admit it because there is a stigma about it.  It has nothing to do with manhood.  She hit you.  You are emotionally scarred by it and it will most likely affect your next relationship, if it hasn't already.  Please just talk to a counselor.  It will be good for you to talk about this.  Good luck and I'm sorry this happened to you.
by SuYin   355 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 4:17 PM
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hmmmmm the question here at the time did you enjoy it  and  2nd if its been 2 years why are you still worried about it. It goes back to what I have been say how you felt is the same way a woman feels when her man puts his hands on her in jest or real. Bruses are marks and it does not matter to the sex of the person you still felt the same. Ok now did you tell her to not put her hands on you again after the first time. If so and you did not see a red flag whats up.
by Gomezz   274 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 3:54 PM
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Yes. abuse is abuse, It doesn't matter if you're male or female, and I'm sorry you had to go through that. If it's still affecting you emotionally, you should think about talking about it with other people who have been in your shoes. Or maybe a counselor. And consider yourself fortunate that you're now away from it.  

good luck!
by marybecca2   471 Posts
Posted on 10/21/2008 11:16 AM
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