Concerned about counseling

Your wife needs to communicate her true feelings to you. What is she going through? She sounds very unhappy with herself right now so the counseling will help her work through her own issues. Listen to your counselor. Maybe a little break from one another will help you both realize how much you love each other.

I am a firm believer in trying everything you can to make it work. Do you think she is just not in love anymore? I know this is hard to think about but she needs to be honest with herself and you about her true feelings. I am sure the new business is taxing on the both of you but atleast you two are spending time together and the kids will understand that mom and dad are trying to make a better life for them. You two both seemed stressed and do not seem to have enough quality time together without the kids or work. Maybe a wekend away together will help rekindle this relationship. Don't give up yet, maybe she will come around with more counseling. Hang in there. Keep me posted.

I don't know what to believe when she talks about when these feelings started because the times keep changing and the reasons also. She says its just a feeling she can't explain. Also we just bought a business in May which added stress financially and it we had a lot of unexpected problems that happened that we couldn't control, and she went from a stay at home mom to working fulltime and she has resentment issues for loss of time with kids. I don't know what to believe and what not to believe, it just seems like she is trying to find any excuse to justify in her mind why we should divorce vs trying to save our marriage.

I would listen to your counselor. Try the trial seperation to see if it makes her appreciate you more. Also, I am wondering if she maybe experiencing "post pardom depression" since these symptoms began after the birth of your child. She needs to feel better about herself. Stay patient with her and see if you can get her to remember why you fell in love in the first place. Good Luck.