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Do it get rid of her you deserve better.

fatally - I hate to be the one to break this to you - but you aren't going to be civil with each other until sometime AFTER you are divorced. The longer you hold off, the less civil things are going to get. Just get getting it started over with.

I find it very troublesome that you are considering going through a divorce where custody is a factor without an attorney. Even if you go for a collaborative divorce (http://www.collaborativedivorce.net/)...you should at least have your interests represented. There is a lot to consider when it comes to custody, it isn't just who gets her when, and even with that you two may not be in agreeance on.

Here is a link to my blog that give a comprehensive parenting plan so you get an idea of all the things you two have to come to terms about....http://docs.google.com/View?docid=dc876ktm_9d4mq6f2s

and yes, if you don't show up at court, she can get a default judgement against you that will be hard (and expensive) to change.