How Did You Know It Was Over?

For me, the lighbulb happened when I was at my brother's wedding and realized that I was in the marriage alone, that if I stayed, I'd always be alone, working on the marriage alone, trying to raise the family alone.  There's that moment where you just know that you can either do something or choose to have this be your life for the rest of your life.  I chose to do something.  The one thing I know for sure is this: trust yourself.  Whatever that inner knowing says, trust it. 

I think that I could have written all the exact words of madymom because I also thought we had a good marriage. I did see some signs before hand but didn't actually recognize them until much later. I caught my hubby cheating and that was that!! I still loved him even though I immediately divorced him, I went for 8-9 months still loving him.  After that time, I went back to him, hoping that he had changed like he said and tried to make a new start, but he just did it again. I loved this man so much that I didn't want to leave again and stayed about 2 years longer trying to work it out but he wasn't willing to work on the marriage with me. He wanted me to just forget about what he had done. I was the only one working on things and he wouldn't stop his cheating so I had to go. I finally felt the feeling of things ending inside myself one day and just knew it was time. I had done all I could and there was nothing else to do. I left, feeling as though I had been defeated and I guess to be honest, it was just a feeling I had inside of me that told me that we would never be together again.

I did not know until I was blindsided by learning of my husband cheating.  He portrayed the model husband all they way up til that day.  Since I confronted him, he has changed into a complete stranger and will not communicate with me or his daughter.  I think it is out of guilt and embarrassment for what he has done.  But I never saw it coming, he never expressed that anything was wrong in the marriage.  I think he just got selfish and thought he could have a wife and a girlfriend on the side and I would never know.  Dumb ass!!