What should i do,its a tuff legal route they tell me.

I have a few more questions,i had no idea of what was taking place,as in she was going to divorce,she had moved me 300 miles from my family and friends,she keep me as a hostage (in the bottom rooms of the house)never met any new people in the area,if i did she made sure that they knew my medicine made me show no emotions,she keep me terrified each day she would quit her jod because the people she worked with were so bad,she just had some chit chat talk each night then she went to bed at 8;30 left me to have endless nights and days,I had been under a doctors care for ten years(same group they pulled me out of this situation)She has tried to put as much emotional stress whic h she knows is the death sentance for me,she knew i was deeply deepressed,yet she made no effort to help me with my meds,in fact she went out of her way to do this,the mental abuse was bad ,at the time i was unable to see it ,as i had put so much trust in this person.so you see it was not good,now im in another state,with family which she tried to contact and gave the explanation we had grown apart.when ask truthful questions she had no reply,this is just a small amount of the story and its fact not fiction. Sam

good luck!

yes the attorney did not represent either of us she just wrote up a seperation contract,i have no problem with this i will seek an attorney,it does not go to court until mar 05 o9.for divorce decree,
                          Sam

you abbreviated in your original post so I'm not clear - do you mean you didn't have an attorney represent either of you - or a single attorney who helped you draw up the separation agreement?

 

Since there is no actual "legal separation" in Virgina you can modify anything up until the final divorce papers are signed. 

You will want to look into requesting a pendente lite hearing - to request temporary support. 

I seriously suggest if this is what you want you retain an attorney.  

just signed the seperation,not divorced,not in court or filed in court yet,
 sam

if you already signed off on the divorce and it has been filed in court, and you are just waiting for the final court date - you are going to have a rough time trying to halt everything and go back to square one demanding support. Especially after she has already paid you what you agreed you were entitled to from the home....you taking that money is pretty much binding you to the agreement.

You might be able to find an attorney that will help you - but you will have to expect to pay quite a bit of money as you will end up in lengthy mediation, and probably go to trial on it as I'm sure she will not agree to paying you anything.

 

This is why you NEVER sign anything until you are 100% sure it is what you will be able to live with.