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Seeing an attorney tomorrow for the first time... What questions should I ask?

Well, I finally had the BALLS to call an make an appointment with an attorney tomorrow I just don't know what questions to ask??

 

I guess what pushed me to see one is everything I have been going through I realized I don't "love" him anymore it's just not there I care for him but, the "love" has gone away.  I have forgiven him one to many times already and have done my part to save my marriage. 

 

On Saturday he had to work 2nd shift and of course that was so hard for me because the "ow" works that shift what made me realize that he doesn't or didn't take my feelings into consideration was he didn't even bother to call me to tell me "hey I will be working a little longer than expected" "don't worry" NOPE no phone call that is when I knew he doesn't take my feelings into consideration it's just about him all it did was bring back old memories when he used to work that shift and the late nights coming home till 3 or even 6 in the morning.....

 

When I woke up yesterday I thougt that's it I have had about enough I am not happy I am miserable with him here he has been forgiven over and over again  I have tried to make my marriage work counseling, forgiving him, changing my ways to please him, and I see no effort in his part and one big thing was He is still there in his job ever since the affair happened he has not made no effort to look for another career at least to save our marriage what he did do was take a promotion and that's when I knew it's just about him!!!! fuck my feelings !!

 

He never made or has made an effort to look for another job knowing that is job and his actions were the main problem in our marriage. 

 

So, tomorrow is a big day for me I just don't know what I should ask??? please give me some of your feedback I want to make sure I ask all the right questions....

 

 

 


by achiever479   111 Posts 
Posted on 10/13/2008 8:20 AM
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All good thoughts here -- I am also doing a collaborative divorce -- not working out.  We have spent about $22,000.00 at $350 an hour -- so be sure to ask what they charge - mine charges $90 or read an email - so those pennies add up quickly.  I also live in a no fault state though my soon to be ex is cheating and thinks I deserve nothing for the 22 years I stayed home the kids -- he earns over $200,000 and I earn $52,000 = so be sure your attorney is a real fighter so you get some maintenance.  Right now I'm very disillusioned with the whole collaborative process -- we stagnated and can come to no agreement yet the attorneys keep wanting to meet -- my husband and I are taking a hiatus to see if either of us has any more proposals.  Just be careful and having a woman attorney sure hasn't helped me out here.  Just my opinion right now -- just be sure they are on the same page as you are.  Good luck!
by scared27years   78 Posts
Posted on 10/13/2008 4:10 PM
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looks like you got a lot of great answers already - but I want to remind you to bring as much documentation as possible with you regarding your assets/debts...the more information you bring the better of a picture an attorney can paint for you.
by spaznskitz   3921 Posts
Posted on 10/13/2008 11:49 AM
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And btw~ we are behind you!
by mtnvly   2307 Posts
Posted on 10/13/2008 8:43 AM
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Here is a comprehensive parenting plan that spaznskitz wrote for her clients. Print it off...read it carefully...it will cover many areas that may become issues and will answer some of your questions..
http://docs.google.com/View?docid=dc876ktm_9d4mq6f2s
Good luck..let us know how it goes!
by mtnvly   2307 Posts
Posted on 10/13/2008 8:41 AM
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please read this article...it has many links to many other articles about how to start this process, and what questions to ask a lawyer:

http://www.divorce360.com/articles/355/beginning-planning-to-file-for-divorce.aspx
by paula1   5294 Posts
Posted on 10/13/2008 8:35 AM
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Well, before going in there, I would try to find out these things first...

Do you live in a fault or no-fault state?  If you live in a fault state, you can probably get a better settlement than if you live in a no-fault state.

What do you want out of this divorce?

What do you anticipate are going to be the sticking points in the divorce?  What are you willing to fight for and what are you willing to give up?

These are probably going to be questions the lawyer will ask you, so think the answer to those questions through.  Certainly, your questions to him will depend on your answers to the above questions.  You want to know just what this attorney can do for you if you hire him/her.  You want to know what he/she charges.

Since I am doing a collaborative divorce with my stbx, I don't know what else I would ask if I were in your position.  Perhaps someone who has been through it with an attorney can better advise you on some other specific questions.  Good luck Achiever!!!  Keep us posted.
by BlueB   759 Posts
Posted on 10/13/2008 8:34 AM
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