When will I be able to let go?

In response to CJent1, my last stab in the heart was when, I asked my ex why and his reasons led me to believe that he loves this new gal more than he ever loved me. On one hand it was a relief, because then I knew that there was nothing I could do to fix it, on the other hand it was very painful to realize...

I just wanted to comment on what BlueB said, "Perhaps in your husband's mind, he has already written the marriage off long ago without telling you...so, he's already grieved over it and when he was done grieving, he moved on.  It was shitty not to involve you in the process, so now you have to play catch up...he informed you about it after he was done grieving, and it caught you completely by surprise, so now that's why it looks like he has no problem moving on."

You couldn't have said it any better, mine did just this. All the while, while they are going through their emotions we are there. But as soon as thery are done they toss us. My ex, has moved on with his high school sweetheart and they are in love and happy. How shitty... Thank you Blue B for acknowledging just how shitty it is that they do this, I really needed to hear it.

It takes time to move on.  Especially if you have had a long marriage and children together.  Finding the video online of the ex's wedding helped me move on.  It was the last stab in the heart!  I am now ready to date and can not find anyone.  Seems that all I do is work, work and work.  How do you find other singles of the opposite sex who aren't married or liars?

im/im.tje.same.place.u.are.but.i.think.its.to.far.gonr.for.i=us.he,says,\
hes,done.and,im,releaved.and.crushed.all.at.same.time