I have been married for a year and a half.. and have saw the warning signs from the start. My husband had a major anger problem before we got married, but I thought he got help and had it under control.. or so I thought... For a year now, I thought it was me. You have heard the saying, " if looks can kill.." try seeing that look on someone's face almost everyday. I have tried asking him what is wrong to get a very loud and angry "Nothing".. I have tried to sit and wait through the silent treatments patiently, sometimes they can last for days straight. I tried to tell him how I feel and not accuse him of anything by using the "I feel" statement. (yes I went to counseling by myself) But, as soon as I mention something he does that I don't agree with and ask him to help me understand.. it turns into angry sarcasm or he starts having a huge pity party. (sorry can't find better words to describe it.. For example, I will try to talk with him as an adult about some of our marriage issues and he starts saying about himself... "oh, it is all my fault. I am so horrible. So, then instead of discussing the issue, I spend the time trying to build him back up) It seems to be getting worse. He has not gotten physical, but deep down inside I am afraid of him. Before when we were dating, this is exactly how it started.. I left when he started breaking and hitting things around me. We have a 5 year old son who gets some of this treatment and anger. (mostly yelled at and sent to his room all day) I don't know what to do. My family loves him and never sees this side of him.. I tried to tell my mom about how bad it is getting and she said, "well, you know how we feel about divorce and you knew this when you married him." I have been thinking about leaving for about a year now.. but want to make sure I do the right thing for both me and my son. Any help would be greatly appreicated! I have only a select few to talk to about this and need more insight please.