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Hello Mama..here is where you are legally - without filing for divorce/custody - that gives him the right one day to show up, take your son and the police will not be able to do a thing about it...as he is legally the child's father and you are husband and wife. You will then have to file for an emergency hearing, if you can get one, for divorce, return of the child & custody. You are also setting it up to where he can cry parental alienation and gain sympathy with the court if he retains a slick enough attorney.
Don't be so sure that unemployed doesn't mean "working under the table". He could be squirrling away money you don't know about.
People think that avoiding divorce is the best way to protect themselves and their kids, but actually, it is the worst thing you can do.
How he treated you has little to no bearing on custody. Right now, since it has been so long, if you file for divorce you will be able to also request supervised visitation and control access that way based on the need for them to "get to know each other" but the longer you wait to take action on divorce and custody, the worse it could end up for you and your ultimate goal.