my chances

from a legal standpoint, yes, if she finds out you are cheating, and uses it against you in court - your financial situation could be grave especially if you spent marital asset income on this other woman.

I agree with the other postings. You need to step away from the new girl and focus on your wife.   You need to give your marriage one last chance and know in your heart that you have done everyting in your power to make it work.  If you two are still not happy then divorce your wife and move on.  Remember, the grass is NOT always greener once you are let out to the pasture!!!

Well, with only one sentence to work with, I'd say I'd have to agree with mtnvly.  Does the person you're having an affair feel the same about you?  Does she love you or is this a fling for her?  If she loves you, then you need to put her on hold while you work on getting your divorce, but if your wife finds out about the affair, then yeah, you could very well be screwed.

Having been cheated on, I can't say that I condone your actions, however at some point you should come clean with your wife...she deserves to know the truth for the reason you're divorcing...maybe after the settlement.  If you ever loved your wife, you owe her that much.  If you decide to stay with your wife, you need to ask yourself what's missing and get to counseling with her so you two can figure that out and work on the marriage.

I wish you luck.

I think you need to step back from this other person and decide what you want. Tell the other person you need time to straighten out things in your life and decide if you want to stay with  you wife. To continue to see her otherwise is not fair to your wife.
Then talk to your wife and tell her how you feel...see what she says and make your decision from there.
If your wife finds out about the affair yes you may be screwed. It is only fair to talk to her before moving on.
Good luck...let us know how things are going!

The best thing to do is be honest with your wife about it. If you truly don't think you have any feelings left for your wife. I know it may seem like you are happier with this new person and maybe it is true. However, you owe it to yourself to know for sure.