How did you let go of the lonliness?

Day by day it gets easier...find something to take your mind off of your problems..etc. Try to take care of you and your needs for a while. You will learn things about you and grow. Someone will come along but you need to be in the mindset that I don't have to be with this person because I am lonely or (whatever the reason may be) but I want to be with this person....

Very insightful, Branny.  That's exactly it...our friends and family can only fill so much of the void, but they do go home...or you do, and that's when the lonliness hits you because you miss what you had and it's not there for you.  That closeness and love that you felt is like a drug, and there is no substitute for the withdrawl symptoms.  I think in time, it passes...it may resurface now and again, in pangs, but when you're ready to move on, you will seek out that same companionship and love that you once had with him/her in someone else.

WoW Branny,  You said exactly what I feel!  That is why I get so worn out.  Just so tired of missing him and our relationship.  So low to your self-esteem that the person you love does not love you anymore and that they are happier without you. I was a god wife and friend. He has said it was not me that he changed.  So hard not to see your future.  Thank you.

OK, I will jump on in here.....  You feel this way because YOU have love to GIVE.  You enjoyed the feeling of belonging to some one and them belonging to you (emotionaly)  THe love you are holding on to is bubbling up and eventually will bubble over and you will feel a panic of drowning in it as you sink into a feeling of nobody thinks it is worth keeping it for them selves.  ANd when no one wants to share in our lives, I reminds us that we are no longer sharing in some one elses life and love as well.  You see couples  holding hands, melting into eachothers eyes with all thier little secrets of hopes & fears they SHARED with eachother and you want that as well.   I know your feelings in  this.  I also had a large network of friends and family but when the day was done.... they all had thier other halves to snuggle down with and give love to.  Hang in there. You will feel it things turn around.  Take care!!   ***huggs from a friend***

Thank you.  In thinking more I was lonelier with my husband.  I keep myself as busy as I can and I see my friends more than I use to. More than anything I miss what we could have been.

HI I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOURE GOIN THRU I HAVE PLENTY OF THINGS TO OCCUPY MY MIND BUT THERES ALWAYS THAT LONESOME FEELIN LIKE SOMETHING STILL NEEDS TO FIILL THAT VOID IN YOUR LIFE IHAVE 7 KIDS BUT I STILL GET LONELY AT TIMES WE WIKK ENDURE EVENTUALLY GIRL HANG IN THERE

That's a tough one.  You need to surround yourself with the people who care about you, the should help some.

In my case, I feel like I've been lonlier with my stbx than when I'm away from her. 

Overall, though I'd say it probably just takes time.  I let go over time, remembering the hurtful things and the lack of effort. 

The nose hair trimmer for Christmas helped too. 

Hang in there!