THE SAGA CONTINUES ABOUT MY EX AND KIDS AND HIS WIFE

Wow!  I have it in my divorce agreement 50/50.  So when I go to the doctor or dentist I pay half then so kindly offer them my ex's address and say bill him the other half.  If you need to and it is in the divorce agreement copy that section only and show it to the billing and tell them you are following a court order :-)  If it is not in the agreement have your attorney put that part in as a modification.  Your ex says he does not know and you did not tell him.  Send him an email it is loocked into your hard drive, or a certified letter notarized and make a copy.  Then when he does not pay you have him in contempt.  He will then have to pay half, court fees, and if found in contempt all your fees including your attorney fees.

yes i would have put the braces on one at a time. i did that . my oldest had braces 4 years ago, and he did not pay. then my little one needed phase one about 1 year later and he did not pay, now my son needed braces and the little one needed phase 2 at the same time. nothing i could do. i never wanted to do 2 at a time since i paid for everything on my own.but he and his new wife took me too court to try to take my kids from me. they said that i was an unfit mom and my children had a terrible upbringing. thats what started everything. in the beginning i was not planning to make him pay for the braces but for him to take me to court over something stupid well then i decided to get what i paid for.
thats all. i have paid about 15 thousand dollars on my own, and yes he pays on time because it comes out of his check. and he also makes 70% more money than i do, not including the money his wife makes too. mind you he never buys anything extra for his kids, even when the kids are with him. he always says to ask your mom. i  give her all my money. well he makes about 90 to 100 thousand yearly while i make 38 thousand yearly.
thanks

If your ex-husband were still with you - would you really have braces put on all children at once or would you bring them in 1 child at a time. The most extreme case 1st.  Most families budget this high expense out over time?

This also seems a little unfair to your ex-husband and his current wife. Hopefully they are trying to work their marriage out together and mutually decided instead of her telling him. This is a difficult position for you as the ex.
 
Is he on time with monthly child support payments? 
Life is not easy all around for anyone during this economic crisis.

I am not making excuses for anyone or trying to upset your pain even more - I'm just trying to throw out another perspective in the life of the "X" World.
I am sure the legal system will follow through with what is in the decree but how much will go to attorneys as a result.
Good luck...

YES, I AM HAVING TO PAY FOR ATTORNEY FEES BUT I HOPE THAT HE WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT TOO. AND YES I WISH I COULD PUT ALL THIS BEHIND ME AND MOVE ON,BUT HE MAKES IT VERY DIFFICULT TO DO SO. ITS SO SAD THAT HE WONT PAY FOR THINGS FOR HIS OWN CHILDREN. HE IS ONLY WAITING FOR HIS OLDEST CHILD TO TURN 18 SO HE CAN STOP PAYING HER CHILD SUPPORT. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SHE IS IN COLLEGE. HE SAYS HE HAS NO MONEY FOR THAT EITHER. WELL WE ALL KNOW THAT FOR HIM MONEY IS POWER

I would think that since the divorce papers clearly state he is responsible to help pay then he should not get to decide what is necessary and not necessary.  What does your attorney say?  Are you having to pay additional legal fees to fight this issue?  I feel so bad for you.  Don't you wish you could just move on and put this behind you for your sake and the kids.  You sound like a great mom  so keep your head high and keep in touch.

YES THE FINAL DIVORCE DECREE STATED THAT HE WOULD PAY 80% OF NONCOVERED EXPENSES INCLUDING DENTAL. BUT AS A MOM I LISTENED TO THE DENTIST WHICH HAS BEEN THEIR DENTIST SINCE THEY WERE 3 YEARS OLD. ALL 3 CHILDREN, SO I TRUSTED MY DENTIST RECOMENDATIONS. BUT MY EX SAYS THAT IT WAS COSMETICS FOR MY OLDEST DAUGHTER. THATS NOT WHAT THE ORTHODONTIST TOLD ME.YES TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION I THINK HE IS VERY SELFISH ABOUT HIS MONEY WITH HIS KIDS.
THANKS

What was stated in your final divorce decree?  Were orthodontics or additional medical expenses actually mentioned and ruled upon?  I am disappointed that your ex is not making this easy for his kids to have braces.  He would rather spend the money and fight you in court then take care of his kids teeth.  Crazy