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I say- RUN! One of the big reasons I left my spouse was that I got tired of supporting him. I made the decision to go back to school and get my degree and he got the message- "Get a JOB!" Once he was faced with that- well, he had to get off his lazy bum and do something. We lived in an apartment because we could not afford to buy a house. After 15 years- isn't that sad? Well, I left him and my kids are with him. (I am living with my parents while I am finishing up with school.). This last month, his parents bought him a house (buying my kids- beautiful). I went by the apartment to pack up the rest of my stuff (I haven't been allowed in there since July) and he had an eviction notice on the door. He didn't pay the rent for this month. I know he's moving out- but he hasn't given 30 days notice. OMG! There was also a notice from one of his clients (he's a photographer) that they are taking him to small claims court because he hasn't delivered photos and albums in their contract. This is not the first time this has happened with the clients. That's a whole nother story.
Anyway- I say if he's not divorced and he's about to be foreclosed on, get the heck out from under that! It will only get worse!!!!!!!!!!!
If you want to deal with two children and a "not ex-wife" then, yes, take him in and make it all better, or yourself crazy! For what, "Love" are you in love with him? Do you see yourself growing old with him? On the other hand, do you see a chance to have some extra cash and help him out? I am sorry that will not happen because when you put, both sets of bills together there will be nothing left. Therefore, it must be love.Can I ask, is he taking care of business? It does not sound like it. It doesn't even sound like you can talk to this man and have any in-put without him feeling nagged, that’s why men and yes women put off talking about scary things the fear of failure can’t get it right, again!
I was once told: If you have to ask the question, it is because you do not like the correct answer! Ho, I hate that! It slaps me every time!Why put yourself in a tight place? For heaven sakes if it all goes south for him then you are there stable willing to help. But, my God, don't give up any security you have now. What would you do if he goes down and take you with him?
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