New here, with a strange story

Hi everyone... I found this site while trying to do research on divorce options, because I am growing more desperate with each passing day. For a little background, my husband is a Petty Officer in the Navy, working in the nuclear field. He just completed his nuclear training in July of this year, and we did our first PCS move to Groton, CT in August. I have a lot of medical problems (which I won't bore you all with), and endure enormous amounts of pain from tasks that 'normal' people find rediculously easy. I'm sure this is the crux of the problem I've been having since I arrived here and my husband was deployed 2 weeks later. I have been trying to contact my husband's ship's Ombudsman (like a liason for the civilian spouses) about options, to no avail. I was directed to a social worker who never called me back after the initial talk, but told me straight up to essentially "suck it up" until my husband comes home in March. Since then, I've been run around in circles by a total of 10 people who are alternately rude, placating, or uninterested. I've tried communicating my problems with obtaining help or information on programs that can help me, because my husband wants to know what's going on, but my husband keeps emailing me back saying that my emails have been heavily edited. They're censoring what I say in order to prevent him from getting upset; on one hand I understand this, on the other... I'm not enlisted and I need medical help. These people have been actively fighting me for a month and my husband is the only one who can help me get the proper channels, but he's not here. Basically, I've determined that since they won't send me home since no one can help me the way I need help, divorce may be my only option. I love my husband, but military life is killing me. The pain from my medical problems and taking care of our daughter alone, combined with the normal deployment issues, is driving me into swings of rage and suicidal ideation. I know that divorcing would rob me of my medical benefits, but I can't use them anyway with my husband gone and no one here to watch over my daughter while I have procedures done or go on medications. I don't feel optimistic that there is any other solution, other than to let him free to find someone else who can deal with the military environment better than I can. That was long. :x Anyway, that's my story and I'm still not sure I can go through with it. My husband is my high school sweetheart and has been the love of my life for the past 11 years, but at some point I have to decide if that's worth suffering and possibly doing something stupid over. The suicidal thoughts are disturbing me but I feel like telling anyone will make them think I'm trying to manipulate the system to get my husband back. All I want is the support the Navy claims that they offer to the families left behind, but apparently that doesn't apply to those who are disabled.