Controlled by HIM

You do not have to blame yourself! you were a victim and he simply manipulated you! Do not worry - try to calm down and file for revision of the custody. And you'll have to tell the judge that the way how your ex got you to sign these papers was manipulation and control.

Keep staying focus on yourself and your kids. Don't give him anything to hold against you. Your past is your past and you are moving on. Stay strong so the court will see you are a fit mom. You are turning your life around and you love your kids. Stay strong!

So you have a shady past, so you did things you aren't proud of now. the point is your taking steps to make yourself better. this means you have learned from your mistakes and yor doing everything in your power to make yourself better. You keep going just like you are, don't stop for any reason. You will end up going to court you may as well face that now. but he has to prove you unfit. with you taking steps to make yourself better it will be harder for him to say you are a bad mom. honey your human not perfect by a long shot and as such you will make mistakes and as long as you admitt your mistakes and you try to fix them and you learn from them then you are going to be just fine. You hang in there it's okay to get mad but remain constant and steady for your sake and your daughters.

Just keep going to consuling and take test weekly, usually people take them every 2 weeks. My friend did it every week and was better prove.

i have a lawyer, and just spoke with him yesterday..he said it's not the time to go to court yet and that i needed to wait longer...and keep doing well..there are so many issues that i have overcome/have to overcome..thx for the advice tho..

You dont know me. I just enter to this site. I have a friend who is going throu the same. I understand that. If you have everything in order, papers showing you are now good, meaning prof of it. Then tell him, I know you dont want to do this for the sake of the girl, if he doesn't give you what's fair you'll fight for it. It doesn't nesesarely have to end up in courts. You can talk to a lawyer and he probably get scare and then sign the papers. You never know.

do i know you? and i know all that is very true and i keep logs and such...but the point was for us not to go to court, for her sake, and to come to an agreement amongst ourselves. one where we each gave a little and took a little. i only want what is fair and what is my right..i don't want full cutody, i am not out to get him...