He is so pissed

First of all I have learned that there is no such thing as a "friendly divorce".  The majority of divorces are bitter and angry divorces, yeah there are some where the people decide to split at the same time and call it quits and agree to everything--but not many I've seen here lately!!  Especially not mine!!  And for him being angry--too damn bad for him.  You need to get an attorney to protect yourself and your kids.  It's not your fault these things happened and now you need help and support for your kids---they are his kids to by the way and he should realize that!!  But like my ex--he basically threatened me to the point where I agreed to take less support than the court ordered--he threatened to sell my son's car and take the boys away from me.  I didn't give a shit about the car --but I do care about my kids and he's not takin' them, yeah he can have visitation but not full custody!!  Don't worry about him being pissed--yeah he's pissed because you are hitting him in the wallet.  That's the only time my ex got pissed was when we talked about money--when we talked about material possessions in the house he could care less.  It was all about his money.  You need to make sure your rights and the kids' rights are protected and an attorney is your best bet.  I'm stuck with the support I have but I can take him back in 3 yrs which I intend to do and every 3 yrs after to have support reworked.  Don't go along with what he has to say just to get this taken care of--because that's the mistake I made and trust me you don't want to do that, because now I'm stuck with the house to sell and it's been for sale since January and this market--is shitty and I'm still stuck with the house and the payment!!  Yeah my ex was coached by his tramp that he's seeing!!  Should have known because she's been thru 2 husbands already.  Anyways just make sure you are protected in all this, don't worry about him being angry--that's too bad for him!!  Good luck to you. :)

I do have a lawyer but was only able to give a retainer of $1000 - every penny I have in this world.

The house is in his name so I have been informed by them that I can not speak to them regarding the loan.  The same thing with the car.

I have extensive records regarding my job search.  I have applied everywhere and continue to spend 5-6 hours a day looking and doing all I can to get a job.

I know you are all right, that anything I say will be turned around by his anger.  It is all so avoidable but inevitable. 

two words....

you can't.

the situation is what it is - you cant worry about him, how he feels or even right now what he is up to - you need to stay focused on the short term needs you have to take care of - namely, get reemployed and find a way to keep the house. Go down to the court house and apply for legal aid.

Contact your mortgage company and the bank you have your car loan through - see who will work with you.

He tried to get off easy & screw you in the divorce and karma bit him in the behind. Now it's time for you to deal with this and do things the RIGHT way - getting what you and the kids are legally deserving of.

Get A lawyer, get temporary spousal support ordered.  Don't let him manipulate you.  It is now a business deal nothing more.  I hate to sound cold but that is what it is.  You must protect yourself and a GOOD lawyer not a cheap one is the best way.

BTW...there is no way to communicate with someone who is angry . They will not hear you but take everything and turn it around. Best to not try to say anything!

Well start by getting yourself a lawyer. You should never have agreed to anything without one..just because more than likely he was cutting you short.
His anger might hurt everything..just protect you and the kids. You need to do whatever it takes for that and to make sure he gives you what you deserve , not just what he wants to give you. Anytime they say ....lets do this with no lawyer when there are children or assets involved...is a red flag...DON"T DO IT! Let him get his lawyer...get yourself a good one and document EVERYTHING!!! Including what he says and does, time he spends with the kids. Be warned though, an angry ex or stbx will try to turn the kids against you in whatever way he can. Do everything by the book so he cannot use it against you.
Keep us posted ! We are here for you!