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Should I let him continue to come over?

My soon to be ex is bringing my daughter home from daycare everyday so that I don't have to pay extra for the sitter to keep her late. This means he comes over to the house every evening and is there when I get home. Should I continue this practice? It's hard enough with him being gone without having to see him everyday, but I think it would be harder on my daughter (who's five) if she didn't get to see her daddy everyday. What does everyone think?

by valpal 56 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2007 7:01 PM

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Let dad be dad. It's about the best interest of the child.

by JoseAnker 22 Posts
Posted on 4/22/2008 9:32 PM

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Amen!
Let him help as much as he wants to . It is good for your kids to have him around!

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2008 5:06 PM

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from a father of three children it is great to have a father ivolved in any part of their lives yes it is uncomfotable for the parents but it is not the parents that matter anymore itis the kids

by lostlove 2 Posts
Posted on 3/8/2008 5:19 PM

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You don't say where he's living and why he doesn't bring your daughter (I'm assuming it's his daughter, too) to his place. You will need to set up some healthy boundaries at some point, and that will mean he no longer can be at your place without you there, too. Especially if you move out of the family home into your own home. He can still be with your daughter, but it a different place. But, he should be responsible for half of the cost of the baby-sitter, anyway.

by katzwild 3 Posts
Posted on 2/5/2008 4:09 PM

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YES!!

by BriteLite 12 Posts
Posted on 1/31/2008 7:01 PM

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Yes, continue leting him do this, especailly if he has not don't to hurt your child. Every child needs their parents.

by Sammilynn 2 Posts
Posted on 12/28/2007 12:04 PM

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Yes, let him continue to come over and help. It's good for everyone. And there isn't one valid reason why he shouldn't....is there? Eventually you will get over it.....and you will soon look forward and rely on this extra help. You'd miss the help if it were gone. But most importantly is he is there for your child. If it were me, I'd encorage more visits. The more help the better.

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 12/13/2007 3:31 PM

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YES. Let him do as much as you can get him to do, are you kidding? First, your daughter needs her father and second, you need help. single motherhood is not fun or easy at all.

by Mary 179 Posts
Posted on 12/13/2007 3:01 PM

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I agree with the other two comments. You are in a very lucky situation since your ex is so helpful and wants to see your daughter. This helps you out and he gets to spend time with his child. Everyone is happy. Keep it up.

by Barkley 912 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2007 9:49 PM

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i think chris is 100% on target. it is great for your daughter - you can push thru it.

by oct15 175 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2007 8:41 PM

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well my recently left me husband picks our kids up and takes them to school every morning.. I hate it, but THEY love it. and they need it. its not about me anymore now.. and its not about you either.. the kids come first and if it makes her happy and saves you money.. I say keep each exchange as limited as you can.. dont engage in conversation other than what is related to your daughter and the day...

by chris 68 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2007 7:46 PM

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