Men Cheat Because of their DNA?

I really don't think it's all about DNA.  I think it has to do with selfish ignorant people who need validation in their lives so they go out and start flirting and that flirting turns into you know what.  I think they lack self confidence and need to find someone out there so they know someone else out there finds them attractive and wants to be with them before they will leave their spouse.  Some people just can't be alone.  Then there are others who just want excitement and it's all about lust not love.  Basically they can't keep it in their pants!!  At least my ex couldn't and I'm glad he's to the curb like trash because he's hangin' out with a white trash ho now!!!  Serves him right!! :)

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Absolutely, takes a strong person with a backbone to stay true to their marriage.
It is the weak minded who cheats.  It is work to stay in your marriage, and the easy way out is to cheat and walk away.

It is choice...

Very good BP. Elane...I know marriage goes against the "natural" way humans use to live and still do.Don't get married then, even if you have the littlest doubt about marriage. But marriage is a CHOICE and a commitment.That's why is should be treated and treasured as a special thing, to commit for someone for life. Oh well.... That's just what I wanted to say about that.And the mistake word again, it just comes to a choice...fix your marriage, stick with the vows or divorce your spouse, then start your next fling or relationship. That's the honorable thing to do! I have to find the actual article and let you guys read if interested.


How about a dna gene that we could say we have that when we are cheated on and betrayed.......we have a "I snapped" gene. Like the tv show SNAPPED...LOL What kind of defense would that be? I guess they do have the in the "crime of passion" defense....I don't know, just a thought. Don't worry you won't see me on the show....

"...DNA..." - Hmmm, I never really fully explored this idea about us being really not much more than deceiving nasty assholes... You may be on to something... ;-)

There have always been many opportunities (...if you can really call them that...) to cheat throughout my marriage. I just never took it upon myself to cross that line for the simple fact that I was brought up with a specific set of values; and, when the time came for me to exhibit them, it took. I owe most of this to a wonderful mother that was married for a very, very long time to my father.

My STBX, told me the other day, that if he was in a bar or anywhere for that matter, that if a female came up to him and grab his butt or his front that he would smile, and say thank you.  Now, my opinion is if someone grabs my butt or any part of my front, they are going to be picking up their teeth from the floor and the nuts out of their throat.  Come on, is it that hard to see that a man or a woman being married is not a game and should not be played.  I think it is easier for a woman to cheat because they have more control of the value between the jeans but a man, he will drop a leg quick to get a grab, suck or even a romp if he knew he could get away with it..  LOL

Yes it is a choice.  I think society looks for a lot of ways to make a reason for something so they don't have to feel it's their fault if they do it, or if it happens to them.  I do believe, however, that humans DO make mistakes.  I honestly don't think man and woman were meant to live together like this, everyday, all the time.  I mean, way back when the humans began, men were made the way they were made to leave the home to hunt/gather/etc., and women made a certain way to have the children, nurture, etc.  Now, because we all have so many different roles, I think all the wires have been crossed, and we all don't communicate enough to make it work sometimes.  We are all fighting for power in our relationships (me included), and men feel emasculated, women feel stifled, and here we go into the land of dysfunction!

I am human.  I know men are human too.  I know we all can make mistakes.  And yes, I think sometimes thinking "the grass MIGHT be greener" is a mistake (please don't shoot me). It is taking responsibility for those mistakes, and owning up to them, and figuring out why you did it that makes you a grown up.  Be accountable, and when you apologize, MEAN IT.  Don't apologize if it's just to pacify someone.  Apologies mean "I realize what I did, and I won't do it again".  Another root problem?  When we (and yes, I mean me) marry someone for all the wrong reasons.  Because we want a wedding, and think that just because we've been with this person for awhile, it's "the next logical step".  I don't think we know just how difficult marriage really is when we get into it.  I know I didn't. 

Anyway.  Sorry for the rant.  Take care guys!

Well, my take is that a lot of things are classified as a "disease," when they should be called something else.  Cancer is a disease.  Alcoholism is...well, something else...addiction, maybe...but not a frikin' disease!!! (Apologies to any alcoholics...I'm not trying to diss the condition or its effects, just its classification).  Same thing with "cheating."  BS!!!

Bull crap.They can blame it on whatever they want but it is just because they won't be faithful. Some things are in our genes but now a cheating gene. Guess there is one for stealing , spending, cussing etc too.
Lack of respect for themselves, a need to conquer, a need for variety in their sex life, (or the excitement of a new partner) low self esteem. There are many reasons why.
Might even go so far as to say that if they were raised in a home where cheating was a factor and that is what they know as a way of life but a gene?
Doesn't matter if you are male or female, black or white or any other color..a cheater does not cheat because of a gene.

Nonsense! Women cheat just as much as men, and it is easier for them to do so. All they have to do is say yes! Not a gene just a lack of committment!

I agree with dyben. That is a crock of shit. Diseases are caused by genes. Birth defects are caused by genes. Cheating is caused by not being able to control what is in your JEANS.

I forgot to say the book was on oprah's website. Yes, a steaming crock pot of shit...I agree dyben. CHOICE,CHOICE,CHOICE for wives and husbands!!!! But this show and "study" ( from another country) focused on husbands....I'm sure a wives turn will come around next.

OK, I think that it is a crock of shit.

Cheating is a choice, not a gene.  people need to get real.