Mediation

Thank you all who posted responses.  I greatly appreciate the time everyone took and the feedback received.  evemapp and marybecca2 believe me - the thought did cross my mind : )  Court date is 09/09/08 Tuesday, so I will let everyone know what happens.  Keep me in your prayers.

he can bring whoever he wants to - thing is, they will have to wait out in the lobby, and will not be allowed to be a part of the proceeding.

I suggest you just act as if she was a stranger and ignore her presence.

You should be able to simply request from the Mediator that your discussions occur only between you and your STBX.  Having gone through this 20 years ago (and my X still lives w/ girlfriend - unmarried - but common-law) they're still in my life.  Try to ignore her and despite the horrors of the situation, think of how to "diffuse" the situation, for the sake of your family's future. I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS!!!  I still abhor the sight of my X's partner, but - she is kind to my children when she feels like it, because I've been polite to her.  And here's the fun part - it DOES come back on them, eventually.   All the troubled kids (hers, especially - and one of mine) came back to live w/them as adults, since they have the BIG house:).  Sorry - can't help but enjoy that fun-fact.  Took years to happen, but what goes around did come around.  Big-time. I guess I'm saying, try to take the high road, and remain as Clear as possible - the emotion will hurt you, legally, because it blinds you to what you need to be focusing on.

That is crazy!!!!!!!!  Arrange a meeting with her somewhere and beat her ASS!!!!

you poor thing! she sounds awful!  I think a word to the mediator is all it will take.  Good luck and let us know what happens!

Discuss it with the mediators prior to meeting with them. Let them know that in no way shape or form should she be allowed in the room. I am not allowed in the court room for any of the proceedings with my bf...mediation should be no different.