Housewife get a job?

Thank you, Carolina.  I have been wanting to become an LPN.  And the verbal abuse won't be hard to prove.  Happens whenever he opens his mouth anymore.  Right now, there is no job I could get in which I could afford childcare, the mortgage, and food, yet alone utilitites.  No way I could do it.  That is basically why I am dragging my feet on filing.

I would go and talk to a lawyer. If he is abusive and providing a home in which you cannot live, you may be entitled to something especially if you have any interest in going back to school. I went back to school online last year and it has changed my life! It is amazing and you will end up in the long run getting a higher paid job. But, I was told NOT to get a job until I spoke to a lawyer. But my kids are only 5, 4 and 2 1/2. I would try to prove the verbal abuse.

Temp agencies are the best idea.  They will give you basic office testing skills that they will show potential employers. 

 

good luck.

hit up a temp agency - it's a great way to get into a company when you are a little skill-rusty.

I guess I should clarify, my oldest is 18 and in college, and I get child support for my 16 year old.  I'm not worried about that.

I have been looking for work behind his back, because I have known I was going to leave, however I am having  hard time finding work.  When people see you have been out of the workforce for so long, they don't jump at the chance to get you back in.

Thank you both for your replies.  Seems I need to step it up a notch.  Much appreciated.

I should clarify -

you might get a couple hundred dollars for six months - to get yourself situated - but nothing beyond that.

only being married four years, and if the two of you didn't have kids together, only the two from your previous marriage - you will not get any type of alimony. He isn't required to ensure you are able to care for children that aren't his - and being out of the workforce for such a short period isn't that detrimental to your potential salary.

 

Yes, you need to go find work.

every state is different, and you should check your state divorce laws.  there is a white box on this page with state by state laws.

usually, if you've worked in the past, the courts will assume you can work again.

you'll probably have to find a job...you may get temporary spousal support for x months or years, but i don't think alimony will be awarded for life or even an extended amount of time.

i think it's probably a good idea to take this opportunity, pre divorce, to look for a job or go to school to get a better job.

unless your spouse makes a tremendous amount of money, whatever you're awarded in support will not be enough to maintain a household and children.

it's always best to be able to support yourself financially.