I am emotionally drained and frightened

I find that I have trouble confronting my ex on divorce issues scares me to death. He was and can be verbally abusive and threatening. My hands shake whenever I have to call him.

by buttercup 6 Posts
Posted on 8/30/2008 2:43 AM

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Thank you for your comments.... I would have to admit that it wasn't 'a way of life'. I have had two marriages, both to men...both failed. I went through years of guilt and counselling to find out why I was the way I am or even thought it might be just some kind of weird confusion. At age 44, I have come to accept that this is just how I am. I have 4 children ages 20, 19, 15 and 6...I get lots of compliments on how respectful and hard working my kids are. I have been nominated for numerous mission awards through work and volunteer regularly at the local free clinic.

by buttercup 6 Posts
Posted on 8/31/2008 4:14 AM

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He is being pathetic......... expected as he is losing you. So sad how men think they can use the children as a pawn.. You wont lose your child because you are bisexual. Although I dont agree with that way of life...... society however does not find anything wrong with it and not grounds for losing your child as long as you are a good mother.

by BingoLaura2 7 Posts
Posted on 8/30/2008 8:39 PM

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Although I do not agree with being bisexual.... he certainly can not take your child away from you for it.

by BingoLaura2 7 Posts
Posted on 8/30/2008 8:29 PM

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Another huge part of my fear is that he knows that I am bisexual (found out while we were married).... he has threatened that he can take our son based on that.

by buttercup 6 Posts
Posted on 8/30/2008 3:03 AM

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I guess I am afraid that he will take off with our son..... Most likely, it is a knee jerk reaction to years of his anger.

by buttercup 6 Posts
Posted on 8/30/2008 3:01 AM

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So what is it that you perceive he has control over or that he thinks he has control over? Take it out of the equation and on with life you go. It does not matter if he is verbally abusive to you anymore. Do not give him permission to do so. Simply say "this is not appropriate, either calm it so we can solve this, or we will have to try another time or perhaps a mediator at your cost, you pick.

by Petty 36 Posts
Posted on 8/30/2008 2:49 AM

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