Chronic Cheating Husband

My husband's cheating began 4 mos into our marriage. Outside of his cheating, I believed our marriage to be wonderful. I later learned it is an addiction for him.

After many years of his cheating, I too, met someone, and my hubby didn't handle this as well. I gave up the boyfriend several times, and tried to work on my marriage, but hubby was not interested. He was too busy always in pursuit of a new woman. He has refused to have anything to do with me romantically, and did not say he loved me for the last three years. I left him three wks ago, but find myself feeling guilty, and wondering if I had completely given up the boyfriend, if things might be different. He has refused to even discuss anything with me. I'm so confused and hurt right now.

My boyfriend loves me, but understands that I am not capable of being anything to him right now. Part of me feels I should move back to my hometown and grieve alone, and the other part feels like I should stay  here (80 miles away) to heal.

If my husband had any thoughts about ever trying to work things out, would he still let me know considering my current living arrangements?