WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN

ok I`m alive!!! night before court my lawyer and her lawyer hammered out a payment plane she didnt want it but I said fine i will go to jail loose job and kids wont get anything.Her lawyer hung up on my lawyer,my lawyer called back and said he is trying look for the best for the kids.With a mortgage paymente late fees,water bill and kids activitys for this year all come to about 4000 dollers,so i am doing a direct deposit in her account every pay period 900 dollers til jan 15th i get paid twice a month,if not paid back  go to court 2\13,judge says make the payments if you come back with out paying he says he has no other choice but put me in jail for contempt.my x was pissed,yea my turn.Question for you Spaznskitz if i agreeded on the divorce to pay half kids activity`s , i have to go with it right?

Also i just paid intake meeting for x to meet with intake house 45 dollers and two hr`s to meeting with kids 25 dollers an hr,so i hope to be getting a phone call this week,gonna be seeing them soon.I had talked to my x`s  farther we get along great she wont talk to him cause i lived with him for 4 months,her brother and her farther said she not right in her mind something is wrong with her,and also she blew up the engine on her car,she told her younger brother to buzz off to,she`s real mad at the world,i will soon see how the kids are when i get to see them,i`m sure she told them some mean stuff.I dont care if she has,they will know when they see me.I will keep ya posted!!!!!

Steve

 

A judge can't order a payment plan on a mortgage, but he could be reasonable with you when it comes to the attorney fees you were saddled with.

If you can't come up with the money -

 

what you need to do is prove that your outgoing expenses are close to, or over, what your income is - you have to prove what a hardship this judgement is on you.

first you need to put together a comprehensive spreadsheet (excel) showing the past three or four months worth of income and expenses - do you know how to do something like that? If not, e-mail me your regular e-mail address and I'll help you with it. After making this spreadsheet up, you need to back it up with receipts, check copies, anything to prove what you have written there - other than just writing it out.

Then, STOP AGREEING TO PAY FOR STUFF!!! If there is no court order for something - DON'T PAY IT!  Extra activities are supposed to be paid with the support you are already paying.

I highly suggest you start selling stuff, if you own your car consider a title loan, plead with family or friends to loan you some money...get your ex off you back...get that money before the court date.

I doubt you will get thrown in jail - but you may get hit with even MORE fines - it makes no sense - but it's like a finance charge for, excuse the term, fucking up.

everything was going fine,till i had to pay her attorney fees,got divorced on june 25,took 6 months, i was paying the mortage at first with small child support,then i fell behind on three payments,then when it was time for the divorce,i paid one mortgage just before divorce. then i agreed topay increased child support and make the two payments of the mortgage and she will take the mortgage payments over,I deeded the two family home to her and i gave her half acre land we had,the singel family she and kids are living in is in both our names till last child leaves or after 11 years,then we sell a split 50-50,but then my x hit me with coast for kids activitys,i agreed to pay half.Now my attorney sent me letter yesterday saying he is done with me on 8\22,because i have not kept up payments with him,gggeeeezzzz,this is the last hurdle,if i can get 1,700.00 before 8\22,this mess will be done,and get on with life.Tention on waiting is tough,it`s like you know doom is coming.

Stevo- I know exactly how stressful all this is. BUT PLEASE DO NOT do something stupid. Stress is a bad thing and can put people in the hole. My x faked heart attacks and also tried to commit suicide. But that is just the chicken shit way out, and its your children that will hurt. I guess I am not sure what the judge will say. But she/he has got to see what you are putting out in exspenses. You can only do so much. I am one who believes it's only going to go the way it's meant to go. I guess if you loose your job, you have to go out and find a new one. But things have a way of turning out. We may not like the path it takes. But you keep doing the right thing and it will come back. Believe me I have had an awful 3 years and I don't like alot of what is happening but I do keep things on the positve side- and more so It is hard for alot of people just keep a good head on your shoulders.
Stay strong and just believe it can only get better.

i believe you can set up a payment plan...but it sounds like you need to talk to them about readjusting your support amounts.  i do know that if you can afford what was set by the courts, you can not pay late.  you need to always pay on time. 

i think they can put you in jail, if you have done this over and over, but that doesn't help anyone to have you be unemployed, right?