how to move past the hurt

How do I get past the hurt that I'm feeling? My husband has decided to leave me and 3 kids for a women he's been involved with 3 months. I can't understand how a person can do this. They started seeing each other in May'08. In June he asked me for a divorce. The kicker is he told me that he believes God brought them together. I am just lost for words.

by annwillbeok 1 Post
Posted on 8/11/2008 4:16 AM

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I can relate completely. My ex cheated on me with our son's daycare teacher and wanted out of our marriage. We are now divorced and I can tell you that that was the darkest time in my life to get through. I will tell you that through time things will get easier. You won't see it now, but it will happen....day by day and hour by hour you will heal and move forward. You will one day realize that you don't want to be with someone who does not want to be with you. You are worth so much more than that and so was I. You will have ups and downs for a while, but know in the end your life will continue and things will get better. You need to believe that. Good luck. Surround yourself with family and friends to support you.

by JLK 303 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 9:10 AM

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God hates divorce and would never put a married man with another woman so dont buy into that crap. Thats his way of reasoning w/ himself to save himself from feeling guilty. But he IS guilty.
The hurt will be hard and it's not any easy process. Eventually you will get angry. Is there a support group in your community you can go to? Are you active in church? Lean on family and friends right now and talk as much as you can. That does help. Concentrait on YOU and your kids. Stay healthy, make sure you eat and take walks to clear your head. I will be praying for you , big hugs coming from me to you.

by charleybear 56 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 8:24 AM

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Time...it takes time to move past the hurt and pain. I agree with BlueB focus on yourself and your kids, sometimes we will never understand why things happen. I journaled a lot in the beginning and went through counseling. I sought advice from family and friends who really cared about me. Take one day at a time. Good luck!

by mominny 137 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 7:59 AM

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I'm so sorry. I wish I had some comforting words of wisdom for you, but there is really no magic bullet or pill that will help you get over this immediately. It will take time, but it's kind of like grieving the death of a loved one when they die. It hurts a lot, but as time goes on, the pain gets less and less.

All I can recommend is that you concentrate on you and not him and his mistress, spend time with your kids. Do things that you've wanted to do, exercise, and make sure to get out of the house. Hang in there, and like your name suggests, you will be okay. Good luck!!!

by BlueB 756 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 5:35 AM

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