The "other" one

I met a great guy and he fell in love, he had just started his divorce and is middle of it. He pursued me for 3.5 months. I told him i wasnt ready but eventually fell in love with him. He lives out of state. He went through a bad week and i felt him distant he insists he has all the same feelings and knows i am the "one " for him he has even told me he is afraid to lose me and wants to marry me one day. for the past 3 weeks his actions do not match his words. I am sure he is confused as all his friends and family have told him not to settle down that quickly. I dont blame them for that i am just struggling as to what to do. i have decided to step back but if i take his calls he tells me i am the one and how much he loves me.

Does anyone have any advice for me?

by jacq 5 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2008 5:39 PM

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I am currently in the same situation as you are. I was separated and another man in my work place was separated and he pursued me. He was very persistent and after many nos I finally gave in and we started a relationship. I knew it was too soon for him. Anyway here we are 8 months later and he has had a ton of guilt about his son and also about breaking up the family unit. His mind is quite confused and we are currently on another break for him to rid himself of the guilt that he feels he never really tried to save his marriage. Anyway so my advice to you is do what you are doing.....sit tight and let him have his space. It is hard I know....it kills me right now not to call or text him. Anyway what I say to myself and I will say to you...if you were meant to be together than in the end you will be. Let him go and he will come back if you are truly in love. It is just like the saying....

by JLK 303 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 8:50 AM

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dont you think this is moving just a little too fast? Your emotions and his are still too raw. Step back... and SIT. (stay where you are and try to figure out what you want out of life). Do you really love him or are you just wanting to be in love again because of what youve lost through your divorce? Is it a fantasy or reality? Think about those before you commit and gaurd your feelings

by charleybear 56 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 8:38 AM

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Thank you I have initiated that by not taking calls just painfull. NO I do not want to be the "rebound"

by jacq 5 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2008 6:02 PM

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In my opinion you should step back from the relationship until he's divorced. You do not want to be the rebound relationship do you? Be careful with your heart...

by mominny 137 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2008 5:48 PM

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