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Is this right?

Because it hurts so bad to see or talk to my husband I told him not to call except to talk to the kids. I don't answer, the kids do. I told him not to come around me. When he wants to see the kids(which isn't very often) he has to go to his mother or sisters house. Am I being selfish? Is it too much for my kids? I just don't know what to do! All I do is cry when I see him or talk to him!
by 4girls    76 Posts   
Posted on 8/7/2008 7:47 PM    
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Do not feel bad.  You sound like you are in alot of pain right now and you are trying to protect yourself from more.  I completely understand.  You do not have your story posted but I am sensing the split was not your idea so you must be reeling right now.  I think that what your asking of your spouse and your children are totally understandable at this time.  Your children will struggle more seeing their mommy upset and hurt.  Ask your stbx to call at planned times so it is convenient for your girls to answer his call and talk.  I question myself also...wondering if I am not being strong enough but we also now what we need to do to protect our sanity right now.  Thank God I did not have children with my stbx and I have NO contact with him now.  God bless you and hang in there.  Take it moment by moment.  Give yourself time to grieve because you and your children deserve it.
by Mypickerisbroken   64 Posts
Posted on 8/7/2008 10:25 PM
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I think you are doing the right thing. If communicating with him causes you problems then don't do it. By staying away you might be avoiding some undesirable incidents anyway. It doesn't sound selfish to me at all.
by RichBrewer   213 Posts
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