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financial misconduct...should I make my leaving permanent?

Should I go through with my divorce?I left my husband last year due to financial misconduct on his part. Over the 10 years we have been married he has borrowed money from friends, family and any one else who would give it to him. I know nothing about his finances. he has a business which he inherited when he was youg that was free and clear and thriving. It now is struggling due to his bad credit and fincancial dealing. He is being sued by some customers fro taking money and not getting the job done. I make the truck paymetn (in my name) He will make it but I have to remind him monthly. I hve given him a large portion of my retirement fund. He has also gone through an inheritance left by my mother that I put in both of our names because I trusted him. I found out about it when I got the bank statement. I could go on and on. I asked him to do a few things such as meet with my father and explain why he hasn't padi aan 8 year loan back and get counseling.  He shares nothign with me.  I don't know how much his business is worth or what it made last year.  I feel selfish going through with the divorce.  What I have told you is only a small part.

by kittymama   2 Posts 
Posted on 8/7/2008 10:34 AM
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I can't tell you that you should get a divorce - however, you definitely need to see a lawyer about the financial problems.  When my ex (also self-employed) filed, we had loans that I had signed for because I trusted him and his "sincere" need to get his business on firm footing and pay family expenses, there was also a LOT of stuff about which I had no idea.  Including the thousands of dollars he owed the IRS.  I was a stay-at-home mom for many years, and had just recently returned to work.  Because I had minimal knowledge about his business, and had no financial involvement, I was not held responsible for those debts.  I had to file a spousal innocence claim with the IRS, and appeal it's initial denial, so I was not responsible for his back taxes, and so my refunds would not be seized.  He also had legal costs from clients during our marriage.  I had nothing at the time of his filing - I was fortunate that my father paid for a good lawyer.
by musicmom   60 Posts
Posted on 8/7/2008 11:16 PM
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