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I hope i`m wrong.

I wanna believe my husband so bad on what he told me, i don`t know if i`m  falling into his trap 1 more time. Last night we where having a conversation i was trying to find out things without getting him suspiciou. I asked him why  this person  tryed to call him 3. times over the weekend ( he din`t answer this calls) he said  this guy wants a job   his not a good worker and  dosen`t wanna hire him and this is  why he din`t answer the call ,  i checked his cell  and saw  (after the weekend ) monday morning at 7 he recieved  the call , i asked if the guy called him again and  said yes  early  in morning (this time he  din`t lie)  the reason why  he called so many times is because he got a new job and he wants a refferral from hiim. Now i guess  if i see the private caller again i would know for sure that is not this guy calling him  no more reason for this person to call him . I will keep you posted i hope is telling me the truth and i`m not fooling myself .  I need to know what you all think ? Thanks again for all your support.

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by Cluless   9 Posts 
Posted on 8/7/2008 8:40 AM
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we all go through these doubts and questions when it comes to partner not giving a clear reason...but your situation it could be any reason. Do you see changes in his actions, his daily routine, or his affection to you? Because my advice is to really pay close attention of all..i'm not saying to question him everything that he do or his calls from this person.. or maybe try confronting him honestly of what you are feeling but ofcourse find the right place and time. Because you don't want to give him a mix signals. This guy calls could really be any reasons...it could be just some secret guy deals thing or really something to worry about like "affair"? But again, i would definitely just pay close attention to his movements, just don't get too obvious, it could lead to a negative reaction from your husband...
by Hopes08   70 Posts
Posted on 8/16/2008 3:31 AM
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BlueB is correct. It is exhausting. And your Gut usually knows more than our heart and brain do. Good luck with your sistuation.
by ec   175 Posts
Posted on 8/7/2008 9:22 AM
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Thanks Blue,
I agree with you 100 %  I will let go if i don`t see this blocked # again  i  will  definately try to trust him again and i won`t look into  his cell ever again i don`t wanna live my life always in doubt like you said is no way to live. But if i   see this call again and again  i have to  find out for sure , cuz i dont wanna live my life with a  lier either.
by Cluless   9 Posts
Posted on 8/7/2008 8:03 AM
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I'm going to be brutally honest with you Clueless, you need to do one of two things...hire a private detective to find out the truth or let this go.  You will drive yourself nuts trying to figure this out and become paranoid and jumping at shadows every time he leaves your side.  It's no way to live. 

Now, he has told you that nothing is going on.  If that's not enough for you, find out a PI to see if he's lying.  If the PI can't find out anything, then you need to work on trusting him, because if you can't, then your marriage is doomed to fail.  OTOH, if the PI catches him, then your suspicions are confirmed and you need to take the next step in your decision making process.

Good luck and I hope that helps!!!
by BlueB   755 Posts
Posted on 8/7/2008 7:18 AM
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