How do you deal with the wait?

I'm not sure because I'm not a lawyer, but I think that if you've got an agreement signed and approved by the judge that it is a legal document and there might be legal ramifications if he doesn't comply.  You'd have to talk to a lawyer from your state to get a solid answer as each state is different.

I wish i could offer help but i'm also fighting to not get bitter as he drags this on. Right now i need him to sign some papers so we can get a realtor to help us on a short sale of the house. Of course he wont cooperate even though he signed this agreement where he said he'd cooperate with the short sale. I'm so afraid that the house will end up in foreclosure because hes being so so difficult. Realtors told me that if i end up in foreclosure, that the lenders can go after me in court for debts owed. I dont get why he wont help its not like i'm benefitting from this...i'm trying to help both of our credit. Can the judge make him cooperate if he signed this agreement? Can the judge make him sign the paper that gives the realtor authorization to work for us?

My lawyer was acting like that until I told him that I wasn't going to sit and wait any more.  Then he came up with ways to try to speed the process.  Really I don't think it's speeding anything up, but it is giving me something to do which makes it feel like time's going faster.

Im also going through the same thing. The last time i went to court, he didnt even show up so they had to reschedule and I had to wait a few more months. My next court case is coming up and Im afraid he will continue to prolong this. He even told me he will do everything in his power to fight this. Hes also told me that if theres a way to sc$#w me, he'll do it even if it hurts him. Im willing to give him whatever he wants just so that I can be divorced sooner. There are days when I feel like I can't deal with the pain of his spiteful nature. Ive called my lawyer for clarifying questions but it seems like the only way I can actually get a definitive answer to my questions is to wait to see the judge. He's done so many things to hurt me.

I am going through the same thing.  It has been over a year we have been separated and our next step is mediation.  My stbx has never been predictable so I really don't know what to expect.  If if doesn't,  the court date is set for Nov. 08.   Because I am dependant on the property division to make any real steps forward, I have found simple ways to pass the time and not become obsessed about it.  I have tried to alter people, places and things that were shared, at least temporarily.  As a result, I am making new friends and discovering new interests.  I have removed "everything" that reminds me of him and do not allow myself to wander down memory lane.  Maybe later, but right now I remind myself of how things are today and I don't want to waste any more of my precious time on him.  I never thought I would be nearly 60 years old and alone again.  It is very new to me to think about life alone, but I am starting to enjoy the freedom it offers and acticipate what the future may hold.  I am starting to view this process as a new adventure and realize there are many options before me.

Thank you for your answers, I will attempt to work with them.  Just staying busy never worked for me, but I do have a list of things that I could do around the house and in the garden.  The arthritis in my back and knees prevents many of the manual labor tasks however.  A friend of mine did tell me about a web site that has a list of groups that get together and do things that I'm going to check out.