Difficult Ex, visitation

I realize that if I want to do anything about this, I need to file another motion for change of custody/visitation and support. I definitely don't want his tramp helping to raise my kids, because I don't have any respect for her at all as a mother, she walked out on her kids to be with him and now her 14 yr old son doesn't want any part of her because he knows what she did and her 7 yr old daughter sees her every other weekend and every other day, the dad has custody because she doesn't want the responsibility of the kids--therefore she wouldn't want the responsibility of my kids either--that's probably why they aren't going--which is crap--pardon me!! In so many words he's letting her run his life--and that's totally stupid on his part because one day his kids will get older and not want anything to do with him just like he doesn't want anything to do with his dad, because his parents divorced when he was 10 yrs old and his dad never had visitation with his 3 kids--GEE like father like son!!! :( The thing that irks me is that she has visitation with her daughter the same weekend that he is supposed to have the boys--which means she has her daughter over there, why can't he see his own boys?!! It's not fair to them and I know I can't make him want to see them, but they are feeling rejected and unloved by their own dad. I do have my youngest son in counseling due to anger and frustration issues after the divorce, but my youngest has so far refused to see anyone yet. He's been going thru depression here lately, and I've tried to get him around his friends as much as possible to help him with this, I've offered taking him to counseling and noone needs to know--but he doesn't want to go. I'm starting to see the "old him" come out here lately and that gives me alot of hope for his future. Yes I have alot of anger because he promised our oldest to golf with him every day this summer--and it hasn't happened and it's Aug. already. His priorities are messed up that's clear!

You need to let your attorney handle this.  Maybe it is a blessing in disguise that your kids are not around him that much if his new girlfriend and her kids are around, you might not want to subject your kids to this on the weekends.  I would tell your attorney to modify your custody and child support so you receive more money and additional custody of the kids.  Keep a journal as to the number of times he cancels on the kids.  Keep your head high and put the kids first before your anger and frustration.  Let them know they are loved by both parents and make sure they talk to you about their feelings.  If they start keeping things in you might want to seek counseling for them.  Hang in there.  Keep me posted.  Good Luck to you.

Writing a letter to a magistrate/judge is ex parte communication and the only place your letter will go is the garbage can because it is not allowed.

Your only recourse is to file for a modification of the custody agreement to reduce his time based on his lack of exercising his rights...and a motion for increased child support.

More than likely he will end up taking the kids out of spite and anger at your motion for more money, and they will be co-parented with him by the girlfriend you can't stand...are you sure you aren't happier not having them around her?