My daughter is married and in nursing school along with working. I don't know if it's the divorce or just the beginnings of narcissism like her father. I suspect the later. I don't call on a daily basis. Someitmes once a week or so I might leave a message. Like her father I have no work number on her, no work schedule and don't know the department of the hospital she is working at. She might get around to returning my call in two or three weeks. It has now been over a month.

She feels I am entitled to this info on a need to know basis. I have not seen her since Mother's Day and then only because her house was robbed and she called in tears very late in the day to wish me Happy Mothers Day. I made the 70 minute drive in 50 minutes. I could tell by her voice she couldn't handle the break in so I went to help. She admitted she couldn't have handled fixing the hole in the door and being there alone until her hubby got home from their day on the lake. It was well after midnight when I got home on Mothers Day.

I am only invited to her house on a major holiday to help with the dinner. I called and left a message around July 4th and again this past Monday. Her sister is coming for a visit and I thought she might like to see her. Still have not heard from her. She knows I live by myself in the boonies. I need her for an emergency contact. At this point I am going to assume I am on my own again and not worry about no contact with her. The last time I talked to her I left it at: If you have some free time let me know and I will drive over and we can have lunch or something. Still no word from her.

She did this to her best friend when she was 6 years old. They were the best of friends and my daughter just shut her out. Wouldn't acknowledge her. We couldn't get her to talk to us about it. Just that she didn't like her. Broke the poor little girls heart. They were like bookends. Always together.

Like her father she no longer does birhtdays. She is aging too fast. She did this at the ripe old age of 22. I owe her several shopping trips for past birthdays. I remind her about her birthday and ask what she wants. She says she hadn't thought about it and that's all I hear.

At this point as much as I do love my daughter I'm just about done. I won't live with another narcisstic person in my life. One was more than enough. My therapist thinks she is in the beginning stages of her fathers NPD.

I rarely ask her for help. The only time I ask is in getting a new computer online. I keep doing something wrong and it takes me half the day. She can do it in 15 minutes. Her husband builds computers. I think I know what part of it is. Every time they would come over her hubby would play around with the settings on my computer and he had to be told a couple of times to put everything back the way I wanted it. So in her mind I don't like him and she is taking up for him. She feels he is being mistreated. But it's my computer. She says I don't like him and I tell her I don't know him. He always goes to my office and only comes out to eat. And you can tell he's not comfortable at my house. I don't know if she's caused that or it's just him.  

My therapist had no suggestions on what to do. He is very familiar with narcissism. So does anybody have any suggestions that I can try? This is my youngest daughter and I love all my children very much but I'm about ready to give up and let her go her own way. I have lost so many family contacts that way. Not my fault, theirs. I will no longer go to holiday dinners to furnish their meal. It's only gotten bad in the last year. Help! I don't know what to do.