July 13th my wife approached me saying she was unhappy and she wanted us to go to counseling. We had some heated words and many discussions followed. That Thursday she said she did not want to go to counseling but I convinced her otherwise. Then as of this past Saturday, we had an understanding that we would go into counseling with an open mind and my wife would take into consideration whatever the counselor suggested and would give forth some degree of effort. If you read my story you'll notice that we have been together for 10 years (6 married). On that dreadful Sunday she said that she should have never gotten married, she was never in love, and can never come to love me the way a married couple should be in love. All the while I kept asking if there was someone else and she swore to me there was not. Long story short I confronted her with a few things and just last night she confessed that she is emotionally involved with someone at work. She said there has been nothing more then some kissing but never any sex. More importantly I guess - is the fact that there is a strong emotional bond between her and this guy (who is married with no kids). She told me that what she has found in him (the emotional bond) is what is missing in our marriage and more importantly - was never there at all nor will it ever be. How can this be true? How can we spend 10 years together, bring two beautiful children into the world, and there not have been anything at all? If you read my profile you will also learn how we met. It seems awfully similar to this in the context that we were both head over heels for each other at the beginning. She said she never felt that way. I cannot come to believe that nor can anyone who was close to our situation - even her siblings are blown away by these statements. I still want to go to counseling because I believe she is just so confused about us never having anything upon which we can go back to and build. I hope the counselor can pick us both apart to help us understand who we are and what we want. Then maybe the counselor can give use ways, suggestions, ideas, etc. that we can put into place and work at in order to see if a connection can be made. I don't know. She wants the divorce. I think that is where it's heading. But am I blind and/or stupid to think that somehow counseling can be a vehicle for us to use to either get our marriage back on track and/or help us start a new track - together. I wish I could make her wake up and see what she is walking away from for a euphoric feeling she has with this other guy. Wake up before it's too late.