My Ex is drawing disability and working under the table

Hi Peach.

 

My guess is this loser doesn't have enough to bother with.  You could petition the court to modify the child support order and have the "under the table money" considered.  But I'm guessing (1) the disability money is not much; (2) if he's working under the table (cash only transactions) you would have a hard time proving he's getting it in a court proceeding; (3) even if you win, you will likely only get it going forward until your son turns 18 (which happens in 3 years) (although granted if you had clear evidence you might get some back child support); and (4) you'll likely have to rack up legal costs to get it (which might be a problem given your current economic situation).

It sucks, but... maybe you are better off writing off the loser and moving on.

I knew he had one child when we met. My son is actually #3, he is 15 years old now, and my entire world.
My ex's new wife just gave birth to baby # 5.
As for the relationship between my ex and I, we hardly speak. My son is beginning to realize what a loser his dad really is. His father rarely calls, doesn't visit except maybe twice a year and as I said he is only 80 miles away.

I in no way think it would be fair for the new wife to have to deal with my child financially, but lets just say, they are very well off, thanks to her.
He is probably bringing in close to $600 or $800 a week plus his $700 and something per month from disability (last I knew of 3 years ago). I bring home a little over $800 every two weeks.  Did I mention the disabilty was from a cocaine induced stroke which he went back to the cocaine, which is why I put him out.

If he was just a sperm donor than forget about him. Does he visit and see your child? Or can you just forget about him and be on with your life.
You cant make this man do anything, he has  to want to help. How's your relationship with your ex?
Frankly if he's got that many children his check is probably already eaten up with the other garnishments and working under the the table and side work is how these men get by. I'm not defending him. They shouldn't be out there leaving children in every town.Maybe this is all he really can help you with, I don't know. But I know it's hard. Did you know about the other children when you met him?
My ex had two different exs and children with both. He was young and stupid and when they are young and stupid they think with the little head. What can you do. He worked very hard to pay his child support and have enough to survive and he struggled on his own. He did every side job in the word just to make it. They were the ones with side jobs and lying about their income. Things got better when I came along. Two incomes are better than one.
I have my issues with the Child support system but that's a story for a much longer blog.
If you have a job and can take care of your little one just do it. If you don't have a job, go get one. Take care of your self and your son and leave that man to deal with his mess of a life, because believe me it is a mess. Just enjoy your baby and don't let him see you stressing about his daddy and money. Let him see you happy and enjoying HIM.

i relate.  my loser is also a deadbeat and i know how frustrating it can be.  you either fight it (and spend the fees to do so), or accept it.  i understand now why so many people give up trying to get child support....it's a long and tough and expensive fight.

I'm sorry that he is doing this to you and your child, Not to mention the other children he has. Unless you can get proof of what he is doing its hard to get a dead beat to do what he should do. 

Start practicing voodoo, If nothing else it will make you feel better!  LOL,, Just try to keep positive for your child.

Thank you!
I doubt he will stand up and take responsibility as he "only has 5 children by 5 different women and supports none of them except the one his with at the time.
As for the pictures and getting proof, it is hard for me to do as he lives about 80 miles away from the town I am in and since I work all the time, I can't do any "recon" missions to get the proof.
Thank you though. Any other ideas?

Do you know where he is working under the table. If you do document when and where. And get pictures if possible. When someone is insistent on cheating the system or getting one over on everyone. You need to get creative in catching them. If you can provide some proof it may help your