What to Do?

I am in the same predicament as you. My daughter will be 3 in Oct. My husband is a good guy. We have been together for 15 years and married for 7. Lately things are very rocky.  I have just fallen out of love with him. Don't get me wrong... he is a good father and a good provider and really a decent man. I don't know. I just can't even bring myself to even bring the spark back. I am just not happy anymore. My main concern in life is my daughter. I think he knows but is hoping it will pass. My feelings are not so easy. If it wasn't for money I would already be gone!!!!!  I know exactly how you feel. Good luck!!!

Nik, I can't tell you what to do.  That's in your heart.  Have you tried counseling?  Maybe couples or maybe just seeing somebody on your own.  Somebody who can help you find why you don't want to try.

BTW, I don't think you're "Wrong" for not wanting to try, I don't know what led to this, I can't judge.  Sometimes the heart wants what it wants, and we have no control.  You're heart wants out.  I think if you find the reason for that, you may be able to find the "will" to try.

Do not stay because you feel guilty for leaving or because you're scared of being alone.  You have a daughter, and she deserves to believe that marriage can be more than that.  Kids see things, no matter how hard we try to hide them.  You need to show her love.  If you stay in a place where you can't find love, you will start to resent your husband and the things around you.  That isn't good for your daughter.

I'm not one to say "get a divorce," but if you can't fix things, or are unwilling to try, it may be your best consideration.  Please make sure you exhause every option before you go though.  Regret is a horrible thing to live with.

Pray, and consult your heart.  You sound like a good woman in a bad time.  I trust that you'll come up with the right answer for you and your family. 

I will pray for you.