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Has anyone dealt with the depression of their spouse?

My husband is seriously depressed...and has many valid reasons to be. He is 30 years old and both his parents have died. His best friend died five years ago, his grandfather passed away one month after our wedding. He has endoured lots of loss. But he also has two beautiful and wonderful kids. I don't know how that is not enough to get him through day to day. Any advise on how to cope with this depression, cuz at this point I am ready to take my kids and walk.
by Kim    5 Posts   
Posted on 11/30/2007 9:07 PM    
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It sounds like he needs a big "wake- up" call. Maybe a change of scenery, new town, new job. It is said that his children are seeing him like this. These are the childhood memories they will have of their dad. He needs to either get on medication for his depression or get himself through it. Life is passing him by and he is missing the best part of his kids childhood feeling sorry for himself. He has suffered many deaths in his life but so have other people. He needs to rise above it and become a better person. Stay Strong! Good Luck.
by Barkley   807 Posts
Posted on 12/4/2007 11:59 AM
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my first thought was that of you and your children. When kids see a depressed adult, they tend to lose their safe place. your situation must be bad for you to write about it. Is your husband wanting to end his life or is he just sad and keeping to himself? Regardless of where he is at with his moods, you need to notify your doctor. In my opinion men have a harder time dealing with depression because they refuse to be part of the health care games. Guys do not like to see doctors period. You need some kind of intervention. This means that you may have to involve other members of his family and his close circle of friends. Give the kids a place to stay overnight and use this time for a heart to heart of serious nature. If you love him, try to help him help himself. Most depressed people see no way out. Let him know that you are there to help and that things can get better if you work together.
by Imubiquity   7 Posts
Posted on 12/3/2007 12:28 PM
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It sounds like he really needs help and not a big fight right now. Would he talk to a therapist or a preach or even a family member or friend? He needs to talk to someone and maybe think about some medication to help him with this.
by dylan   61 Posts
Posted on 12/3/2007 10:11 AM
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Create a brand new possibility to live into! By abandoning your husband would probably create a negative spiral. Recreate a new agreement to live into the possibility of partnership and by possibly creating new events to attend i.e. Friends Birthday parties, etc. What excites you and your husband together? Have him change his focus from Death to BIRTHS! People's Birthdays! You can re-connect to your family by just focusing on BIRTH not Death! ACTION can stop depression from setting in! The more great life EVENTS you can create together, the more the depression will NOT set in! BY MOVING AROUND and working together in Partnership can you create a Transformation of his mood! I believe ACTION and moving around to your community Birthday EVENTS can really transform the mood! What is his life's Dream Possibiltiy??
by timecoach   3 Posts
Posted on 12/2/2007 3:57 PM
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I wish he would admit he has a problem. But he doesn't and he refuses to go to therapy. I have offered to go to couples counseling to see if that helps. He won't. Another night and he went to bed at 7:00 pm with a house full of guests that he invited over. I am really at my last straw. Not sure where to go from here. It is my house and I can't get him to leave wothout a fight. And that fight I cann't have happen in fron t of my children. At age 8 and 3 they don't need this.
by Kim   5 Posts
Posted on 12/1/2007 9:51 PM
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