How dare he!

I agree with teachermatti, cover your bases. Play it safe. Sounds like part of what he is doing is to get you mad, try not to let him get any more from you. Lexapro is for anxiety and works for stress to. My wife is giving me the same statement. If he wants to state you have mental health issues because of lexapro, he's gonna need more then that to prove it. Maybe he should read about an issue before he diagnoses it.

I think getting frightened and angry is a perfectly normal and unavoidable response, so I think that you should take time to vent.  With that said, once you have vented you do need to sort out the emotions from the business and get down to the nitty gritty.  The attorney most definitely is trying to work you into a corner where you will have to come out fighting.  Every custody case I have known personally has brought up medications and stress, but I have only seen one case where it was used to determine custody and that was an untreated bipolar disorder.  The meds will be discounted, I assure you, as long as there are no patterns of irrational or dangerous behavior.  As far as caregiving, there are two lines of thought here - who pays and who stays...  If you are a stay at home mom for the most part, your contribution is no smaller than his financial one and will count.  His attorney has simply stated what he believes the father's qualifications are for custody.  Your attorney will put together an argument that lists all of your qualifications and the court will determine the appropriate judgment.  Don't panic, but be prepared.  Take the time to gather contacts of people who can validate your claims of caregiving, but you may not even need them.  Just be sure to have them on standby should it become an issue.  Stay positive and keep being the best parent you can be... that's the primary qualification!!

Thanks all!  I have calmed down  dramatically !  stbx is out of  town tonight so I can take this time to think...respond rationally and chill out!

This group has been an outstanding support for me.

SPOILER ALERT - a little male bashing ahead (sorry boys  -  nothing personal)....

I believe this is guy divorce tactic-101:

1. threaten to fight for full custody of the kids (which any mom is gonna fight tooth-and-nail),
2. subtly suggest that "there might be a way to compromise," then,
3. trade paying you less $$$ for the custody (custody that they weren't going to get and didn't really want)...

I'm not saying there arent bad moms out there who dont deserve custody, etc, and I know that all guys don't condone this.
 
But divorce is a business transaction.  And in business, the best way to negotiate is to exploit your opponent's weakness - for most moms, their "weakness" is the kids - and the lawyers know this (and some use it to their advantage)!!!!

Okay, I know the response you received previously said not to worry, but these are your kids, your life, that we're talking about. If it were me I would contact the kids teachers, doctors, dentist, PTA, everyone you have had contact with in regards to your kids, and ask them to write you a letter of recommendation. Kinda like for a job, but it needs to say that YOU were the one always taking them to taking them to their appointments, your behavior with the children, anything positive they can say about you. You need to have these notorized so they are admissable in court. It may well be nothing to worry about but I think I'd cover my bases now just to be sure. If you lose your kids it's going to be harder to get them back later than it would to fight it now. If you have an attorney you should check with him/her. Good luck!

also keep in mid your ex may not even know it was written up like that - he could very well have left it to the attorney - and it is their job to paint you in the worst light, then you have to prove them wrong...etc...

it's nothing to be concerned about

SETTLE DOWN

this is typical - it's legal "banter & positioning"

 

it is also written that way to get your goat to upset you so that hopefully you blow up in court...

 

so don't.

 

3/4 of the population is on some sort of anti depressant med. If you weren't 5150'ed like britany spears - you are fine.