This is my second entry and I just want to say thank you to all who have sent me their support, I am so sorry that the rest of you are in the same kind of situations but it helps me to know that I am not alone.  Yesterday morning I found proof of the girlfriend, so he now lives with her and I have an attorney.  I do have rights and even though he thinks he can manipulate me into thinking he can destroy me....I know my life will get better...I will no longer speak with him or let him tell me how he can destroy me...I actually think she might have done me a big favor and she can have him and I can be free...Now it is important to note that I still feel horrible beyond belief and I know that the road ahead wil not be easy but at this moment in time I have hope for a brighter future.  I know I have rights and have earned the settlement me and my attorney will ask for...He still says he will fight me tooth and nail, but all I want is what I am legally entitled to so he can't hurt me anymore...I had a weak moment and actually spoke with him but he could not get the best of me no matter how he tried and now he is freaking out...as he should...I don't beleive that anyone deserves to be cheated on for any reason...if you want out leave...all he has done is destroyed me and my son's life (temporarily) and his life is going down fast...Adultery is an ugly ugly disgraceful act that hurts so many people but in the end the adulterer has to pay the price, maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but in the end he is going to suffer...I had a counseling appointment today also and was encouraged to keep taking the steps I am taking and I will get better, we all will...