two people can be lousy together as adults in a relationship - but shine like bright stars when it comes to parenting.,,,

my suggestion to you - since you are so torn...

50/50 shared parenting - you both get him equal amounts of time and you both have equal say in how he is raised.

Just understand something, I'm married and have 5 kids, they range in age from 19 to 5 months - and all of them, even the 5 month old, go through times when they like one parent better than the other, or seem more attached - it doesn't mean they love you any less, and it doesn't mean you aren't an equal parent...or a good parent.

part of why your son does the daddy this and daddy that is because he is excited to see you too - and wants to tell you about his time when he was away - all he has at 3 years old to talk about is daddy and what they did together - as he gets older, his tales are going to include a lot more...

but seriously consider 50/50 shared parenting...it sounds as if the two of you could make it work.

Maybe he is becoming a better father because he is alone with his son and can spend time with him they way he wants to. I know in my case with my children I was always second guessed with my wife, the way I talked or interacted with the kids was questioned or picked on becused of what we were doing . This can take a toll and make a father pull away. Now that he does not have anything in the way he can be himself with his kids?

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I hope I did not sound defensive. I know there are great dads that are divorce.  Be happy that he is taking great care of your son. Don't discount yourself.

It makes you a GOOD mommy to consider who might be best for your son. Only a good mom would put the needs of the child over their own.

Still, is it best? I don't know.  I don't know because I don't know you and your husband.  I will say, that just because he may seem happier with daddy doesn't mean that daddy's best.  Kids like chocolate better than broccoli too, but we know what's better.  You need to look things over and consider what's best. 

I know that Paula1 loves lists.  This may be an instance where a list is a great idea.  Make a list of where you're good, where your bad, and where dad's good and bad.  Compare them.  This will help you in your decision.

If you're a Christian, don't forget prayer.  He will answer.  You're a good mom, I know you'll come to the right decision.

It is good that your child enjoys being with dad.  A healthy strong relationship with both parents is critical for the well being of the child.   If you have been awarded custody, I don't think you should think about changing that, again, just be happy that when your son is with his father it is a great experience.  You may not get all the cudos from your son because you are around him all the time and going to Dad's is like an adventure. It sound to me like you should just let things be if they are working, and be happy that they are.  Good luck.

Is he being a santa daddy? My stbx keeps on buying his love. I also beleive some men become better fathers because they are not with the child all the time. I have that same problem. My son wants to be with his dad because his dad buys his love.  But I know I am the better parent.  If he is 3 he really doesn't  know what he wants. He also could be talking to his dad about you and how much fun you are.