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WHAT?????

I have been reading some on this site.

 

 You mean to tell me that if I tell my hubby that I want to separate, live somewhere else for awhile, while I sort out my feelings for him that this could be considered abandonment and could hurt me should we get divorced?  HUH?????

 

Surely I have interpreted something wrong along the way!  How will I know that I really want a divorce if we don't separate for awhile and see if we miss each other and we can overlook each other's shortcomings????

 

Somebody help me!!!!!  I live in Ga. if that matters at all.
by sweetie6116    18 Posts   
Posted on 7/8/2008 11:10 PM    
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Okay, so here's an updater:  I filed for a divorce and we have agreed on a settlement.
Now we wait 30 days for it to be final.

Am I correct that we could stop the divorce before it becomes final in that 30 days? What about an extension should he decide he does want marital counseling.

I am still VERY angry that we had to file for him or myself to move out legally. I still think it is a truckload of crap! There should be some simple form/agreement that two people could sign to give us time apart to work on our marriage. It could state that it could no way affect our divorce.  Sometimes people need time apart!  And I really don't think that is immature!

I mean, I can't give our marriage some serious thought with him here all the time.  I am so angry with him that I don't want him around right nowl.  If he does agree to counseling which is what I wanted, then we shall see.  But right now, I am glad that he is gone.  I just want time to make sure that this is what we both want permanently before it is too late.
by sweetie6116   18 Posts
Posted on 7/30/2008 11:07 AM
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Here's my dilimma, we have been "married" for two years this upcoming August but over these two years he's been out of the country for approximately 6 months of each of these two years and roughly additional 3 months for each of the other 5 years I have know him (I've known him for a total of 7 years).  

He has stated he wants a divorce and I told him if he wants it he needs to file.  (background info we were married in NZ and basically that is where he goes when he is out of the country)  We are not young kids, I am 48 and he is 51.  I bascially feel he has abandoned me.  We live in Massachusetts.  This is my first marriage and I want it to work and this is his 3rd and he is basically throwing in the towel.  We have tried counseling and I thought it was good but his opinion was that he didn't need to have a counselor to tell what is on his mind.....

Anyways, can he file in New Zealand without me knowing?

Anyone know what happens to the account he set up in NZ with my money?  We decided to put it in an overseas account due to the 7-9% interest vs. the 2% here.

Sorry if this appears mumble jumble but would appreciate any input.

Thanks
by debbie17   3 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2008 3:15 PM
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I see you are at that damned if you stay, damned if you leave point...


good luck to you
by spaznskitz   2603 Posts
Posted on 7/10/2008 9:51 PM
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