although i am still in the deciding stage, being the one who initiated the divorce option, i am getting nervous about the financial aspects of this process. i have a feeling that divorce is imminent and that i probably will decide to leave my husband. after three years of working really hard at my job and him not working at all and living off of my support i am wondering how much longer i should continue to let him use my money. this is the way it has been since we have been married and this is one of the core issues of my unhappiness with him. he has taken advantage of me and my hard earned money for too long and has done too little to deserve it . he has earned next to nothing at a couple of odd jobs, but has done as little as possible and has failed to support me in any other areas of my life, emotionally and otherwise. i even payed for him to go through school even though he didn't even finish.

i just left last night to stay with my grandmother and everyone is urging me not to let him have any more of my money and to cut him off immediately. he is a sponge but is too proud to admit he is dependant on me financially. i don't expect him to ask for much or say much about it if i decide to do that, but i feel really guilty about leaving him with nothing.

i have a savings account with $1600 in my name only. i just deposited my most recent paycheck in our joint account and payed the rent for this month even though i am not staying there now. there won't be much left after that check clears and i get groceries and stuff that i need. all of my stuff is there but my clothes, but i will probably be moving out soon. shoud i tell him that i plan on opening my own account when i get my next paycheck and that he should start looking for a job? we paid first and last on our apartment so besides the bills he will be able to stay for at least two months from today while he gets on his feet.

and should i pay this months utilities too for him and give him gas money? i doubt he will have a job in time to take care of that stuff this month, but after this next paycheck i want to cut him off from my money.

he is perfectly capable and able of finding a decent job. he just hasn't wanted to because i support him. i know i need to start saving more and plan for myself financially and he is a huge drain on my funds because he spends money left and right all over the place on stupid little purchases he doesn't need but doesn't make anything at all... it all adds up and i am tired of seeing his atm transactions on my bank account statements! arrrrgggghhhh!!!!!

what should i do?