Reconciliation?

Divorce, and moving are considered two major life events. Moving will not solve problems, but can def create new ones. If he wants to try again, he needs to show you something more than that. Marriage & family counseling first, for instance.

 If he cheated, don't pretend he didn't  or make excuses--figure out that if he did, can you deal with that and move on, trust him. If you don't have trust you don't have anything worth saving.

If he truly wants to try again, and is worth it, he will give you time to take it slow. If he's rushing you, esp to move, i'd be suspicious.

Don't you dare take this piece of work back. He has a girlfriend and it didn't work out. Get a grip and run like a raped ape from this situation. Half the people on this planet are men and you can find a decent one you truly deserve.

I don't know if he cheated or not.  I lean more towards yes.  I think that he became emotionally involved with this young homewrecker.  He denies it till the end, but that is just my belief.  I had filed in 2007, but we decided that we could make it work, we always had an up and down marriage (17 years).  this man would do anything for me and in one month, that was all gone.  He asked me to finalize it.  Well, what he did not know was that his GF was already engaged.  So, in the back of my mind, i think i know exactly what game he is playing.  He can't have her so he might as well come back to me.  It's funny, how when you start telling others your story, you can actually here your own solution coming right out of your own head.

I went through something similar when my divorce was just starting.  I was told that we can reconcile, and move to Texas where her friend lives.  After thinking about ti, I declined, and am I ever glad I did.  I found out that it was only a ploy to et me to move out there with her, so that she could divorce me there.  I would have had to choose between living somewhere where I had NO family and NO friends, or leaving my kids behind and moving back to MI.  DO not under any circumstances even consider this until you are 100% sure you can trust this person.  It is sad to say, but a lot of times, the stbx will use your emotions to try and get what is best for them while completely screwing you over in the longrun. 
 It is very easy to claim things like  this, but proving it is a different matter entirely.  He already proved he can't be trusted once.  Don't make the mistake of giving trust again when it was not earned and making things a lot harder on yourself.

Boy, that is a tough one. I personally know that my ex could come crawling back on his hands and knees and I"d never take him back, but everyone's story is different. Did he cheat on you? It didn't say on your main page and personally, if my spouse cheated on me I could never trust them again. Cheaters don't change and I truly do believe that. I wouldn't personally move to a different location if your support team is where you are now - your family and friends. If you move and don't have a support team you are screwed. Also, don't think about the kids. I hate hate hate to say that but this isn't about them. My parents got divorced when I was 11 and that was the best thing. They never even fought, but they also didn't love one another. So make yourself the priority here but I agree with the other poster, do not move. I think that might be a huge mistake cuz then you are caught.

We didn't stay the nights with eachother. We took our children out during the day and just stayed outdoors doing lawn work and just hanging out at my home and then we went to our own homes at the end of the each day.  He called me to come over last night (sunday) and asked me to reconsider (absolutely no sex) which is why I'm thinking maybe this is real?:( I don't know.  He says that he wants to make things right for everyone.  And that this is the worst thing we could have ever done.  I am going to talk with him again tonight and see if he would be willing to go to counseling

It's really easy to fake it for a weekend.

Stay living seperately, tell him the two of you have to go to marriage counseling for a minimum of 6 months before you will even consider getting back together with him, muchless uproot yourself.

for god's sake don't sleep with him (although I have a feeling you must have this weekend)

Hire a PI and have him watched - make sure he is serious and not just playing you because his girlfriend and him had a fight and he needed somewhere to go this weekend.