my sociopathic husband is abusive, cops do not help - I want him gone, how can I do this and make HIM pay??...

If your husband is a cop and you feel the police are not helping you call the local prosecutor in your area and advise them.  They will make inquires as to why the police are protecting their own. 

I have in the past called the prosecutor and the first question he asked me was is my ex a cop. 

If this does not work go to your local courthouse and file for a TRO and make it final (FRO).

SweetPea :o)  thank you so very much for the thoughtfulness and sheer kindness in responding to me....You just made my face and heart smile!  I left you a post on your wall - I hope you read it soon!  I'm here for you, too, SweetPea!  Hugs and Blessings from God to you and your precious daughter....Juleighanne

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.  I am in a similar situation, but my husband is not a cop!  Your story reminds me of a book "Black and Blue" by Anne Quindlan.  Anyway, I have been married for about 25 years to a verbally, emotionally abusive man.  I was going to suggest to you that you call 911 and leave a paper trail, but I can't imagine how difficult that is with a cop and all his cop friends.  I also am a stay-at-home mom and am financially dependent upon my husband - not such a nice place to be.  My plan is to get a part-time job and try to get some of MY life back.  I believe you should take time for you and your daughter and try to make some good memories for her.  My daughter and I have gone pumpkin picking, cotton picking, and pie tasting all without my husband.  I very clearly have told him that I'm making good memories for her and he is not part of this plan.  My advice would be to become more self-sufficient to allow yourself to break away from this man.  Once you get some of yourself back, things will look better.  Of course, you must get yourself and your daughter away.  God bless and stay strong for your child.

Teesah, God Bless you hun - and you're just 21!...how great are you.  Thank you, first of all....I would love to chat sometime and perhaps we could strategize and find appropriate advice here?....He tried to break down the door last night and scared my daughte to tears....again, cannot call 911 because they do nothing, TRULY!!!  He also has acquired  several loans I jus found out about, is on several singles dating sites, pawned guns from his 82 yr old Dad...of course they let him - did I see a cent of this for the house pmt?...nope!  In fact, I, as usual was called the awful names, etc...he's sick.  I AM keeping EVERYTHING I find that he doesnt think I know...I just have the instinctive feeling to do this,  my kids cannot wait for tis to be done, I feel just wretched for allowing him in.  Im not sure how to navigate this site but I WILL learn - I would like to be your "friend"...want to ?  Ive got some familiar addiction advice you NEED to hear, Teesha...love and happiness to you swetie - lets talk soon!

I can relate to your situation, in a way. I may not be very old, being that I am only 21, but have been in an abusive relationship before. I know what you are going through. My soon to be ex husband has been married two times prior to me, and is a severe alcoholic. He was the bread winner, making $30/hr as a union painter in Las Vegas. I was a stay at home mother, and had no money whatsoever. I did have family though, and that is where we differ. The only good advice I can give to a woman in your position is, look for pro-bono services in your area. If you successfully find them, explain to them your situation, and the dire necessecity to be away from this situation, mostly for the mental stability of yourself, but for your childrens mental health as well. They will never turn you down because of your husbands career, or affiliation with the law. Also, go to welfare, and ask them for assistance. They will be able to help place you somewhere that he can not find you, or can at least direct you to someone that can. Kind of like the Witness Protection Program. Even though you will still have some affiliation with the law, its still worth a try. Also, another ;thing to try is to tape record anything of any violent nature, either with a tape recorder, or a video camera. Because your husband has an affiliation with the law, and there is no way to get any assistance from them, I can not suggest to you to DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. You can try, but I can not promise how well that will work out. I do however wish you the best of luck in everything. This is about the best I can do for advice, seeing as though I am similarly going through the same thing. Good luck!