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She's Pregnant......It's not mine

So my soon to be ex (like so soon she's signed the final decree and I'm meeting my attorney tomorrow to sign it) just told me she's pregnant.  9+ weeks along.  It is NOT mine, she went out of town and shacked up with some guy for the weekend and ended up knocked up.  She tells me that in Indiana the court will stop the divorce and will require me to be listed as the father on the birth certificate if they find out about it.  Is this legit?  What sort of "liability" do I incur based on her bad thought processes?

by HurtingDadOfKids   10 Posts
Posted on 9/30/2009 6:43 PM

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My divorce was finalized under a month ago. Here in WA State, a no-fault state, a husband is assumed the father of an unborn baby, conceived in the duration of the marriage. And unless she lies under oath they WILL find out about the pregnancy; cuz the judge/commissioner will ask if she's pregnant, before he signs off the paperwork.
So try to see if you can get her to sign a paper beforehand, testifying you are NOT the father (I sound like Maury now, lol). I'm not sure if they'll stop the divorce because of the pregnancy, but it might indeed complicate things.
Good luck with the whole thing. After a 1 1/2 years divorce process, I have to say it feels great to finally just be done and over with.
by Maikeedio   10 Posts
Posted on 10/3/2009 1:16 AM
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I live in Indiana and have talked to Lawyers about divorce and I have been told this is a no fault divorce state. That if your stbx left you for someone else and got pregnant by that person there is nothing that can be done by the courts.  In another words she could show up in court 9 months pregnant and give brith in the court room and if you are not the father she is SOL. The courts will not stop the divorce just because she got herself pregnant.
by lonleyheart1   4 Posts
Posted on 10/1/2009 7:44 PM
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Hate to break it to your STBX wife, but if your not the father, and can prove your not, she has no case.   Seems that she totally screwed herself this time and will get screwed in the end. I wouldn't worry. A blood/paternity test is all you need. You might want to consider dragging in the guy who knocked her up into the mess. It'll speed up the process of divorcing yourself from her. Good luck to you and it sucks to be her!
by hurting_consultant   19 Posts
Posted on 10/1/2009 3:19 PM
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IANAL but have read up on this. The way it works is if your SO gets pregnant, and you raise the kid, then get divorced, you are liable for CS, at least based on what I've read, whether or not the kid is your biological offspring. However, the kid has never known you, is not yours, and you haven't yet assumed the role of the father, if you get a DNA test and it shows that you aren't the daddy, from the get-go, you aren't liable for crap.

She doesn't know what she's talking about. At the end of the day, the guy that knocked her up will be the one making CS payments, not you. Chances are the court will treat the situation as though you are the father, til the baby is born and tested, if she claims  you are the father.  Your lawyer can tell  you how it works in  your state.
by Viz   41 Posts
Posted on 10/1/2009 10:48 AM
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i would get a blood test an get this documented an the couert wont  hold u accountable an if have kids this will mess up ur family
by spikeb   28 Posts
Posted on 10/1/2009 9:28 AM
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eh - if you can prove there is no possible way you can be the father, and she is willing to sign a document acknowledging the child is not yours, considering how close your divorce is to final, a judge will probably accept the document in lieu of having to wait on paternity and allow your divorce to go through.

If there is any chance you can be the father, and the court finds out she is pregnant, then yes, it could be held up.

So, you have two choices, admit the pregnancy and see if she will sign off on your responsibility and submit it to the court - OR keep your yams shut, get through the divorce and go on your merry ways... 

if not, you will be the father and if you carry her on your insurance right now you will have to continue to do so (and stay married) until the baby is born and you can do a test.
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 9/30/2009 6:57 PM
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