Help, I am sick over this.

I am new to this so I apologize in advance if this does not constitute an emergency. My body feels like it is because I have been having anxiety attacks non-stop about the issue.

I met my husband when I was 19 and we married when I was 26--we have been married 4 years.

As far back as i can remember we had arguments--nothing huge--just little issues. After we got married I feel the affection and appreciation he has shown me started dwindling. Its to a point that I--someone who is completely opposed to cheating--now understands why people do it (NOTE: I HAVE NOT CHEATED).

I have expressed my concern about needing to feel special to him (like he would treat a girlfriend, etc) but nothing changed--maybe for 1 or 2 days but nothing permanent.

We started counseling in July after the fights became dirty (name calling, resentment, etc). After 2 months he is ready to get a divorce saying that he is only 5% of the problem.

I admit I havent exactly been nice after years of not getting affection and I understand his argument of "how is he supposed to be loving and affectionate when I have been a bitch" but what is the excuse for why it started?

Like so many of you i feel bi-polar about the issue. One minute I think its normal, all couples go thru this, the grass isnt always greener, then the next I am like GIRL POWER time to move on and find someone who loves me and will give me what i need.

We are both sad. Its been a long haul. He says he is done. I think we should give it more time for the anger to subside. He says hes not angry and we are forcing something that isnt meant to be. I am hurt and disappointed. I am also out of a job and have no where to go. I will have to lose not only my husband and house but my dogs who are basically my children.

What should I do?