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well I have been married to my husband for 11 years and honestly I am at my wits end. This man is an excellent provider for our family. We have 4 boys 1 out of the house and 3 still here. I don't know if I should walk or give it one more chance. He has betrayed me time and time again. He cheats on me and I allow it because i have not left however this last thing has truly crushed me to the core. I haven't slept in days, I can't eat or sleep. I don't know what to do. My family is the most important think in my life. I  however am tired of fighting to save a marriage that for whatever reason seems unsaveable. I am seeking help for the marriage. My husband teels me time and time again" I will do better I promise ."  I feel he will hurt me again if I give him this chance. Our baby boy heard me asking him for a divorce and he ran down the street crying. He begged me to just talk to his father please don't get a divorce because that means we will not be a family anymore. He kept sayong please mom that broke my heart I told him I would talk to his dad. That was 4 months ago and here we are again backt to the same madness. I don't let the kids see me in my emotional state because I said I would try but what am I to do. My husband has been trying for the past few days to pleade his innocence to me, I can't trust him and I really want to.

by quik   3 Posts
Posted on 7/12/2009 10:16 PM

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Sad as it is your hubby "checked out" quite some time ago. You say he betrayed you time and time again with promises of he will do better. Are you kidding me?
His bullshit lifestyle is destroying you and your children. You need to remove yourself and your children from this situation if you can possibly swing it. Get some counseling and make a new life for yourself.
As one of the members here always says: Once a cheater always a cheater and all I can say is amen.
You deserve better and better is out there. You need to show your husband the front door!
Best of luck to you and your children!!!!!!!!!

by Kay46514   229 Posts
Posted on 7/15/2009 10:53 AM
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I know your pain. My husband has lied to me so much and I have done nothing except forgive and hope he changes. Everyone keeps telling me that will never happen. I finally believe that to be true.  Divorce is horrible but if the kids feel loved, they will make it. You are still a family.
by sherbear   25 Posts
Posted on 7/15/2009 10:42 AM
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Your husband already left your marriage. I am so sorry.
by bluebird   1157 Posts
Posted on 7/13/2009 1:47 PM
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Really don't have any advice for you because I am right there with you... My husband just doesn't seem to care - he says he does, and sometimes he tries - but he goes back to his old habbits... We also have kids - 3 boys, who all live at home. I am torn between trying YET AGAIN and just leaving. I have been thinking though lately that if we do get a divorce that it will be difficult on the kids and on us - but I also think that all the hostility in the house would diminish if he and I were appart. We are trying thearapy (he came to one session)... he doesn't think WE have problems - he thinks it's just ME... maybe it is, I don't know, but all the fighting and feeling alone isn't doing any good...

I hope that things work out for you and your family...

good luck

by Frustratedartist   3 Posts
Posted on 7/13/2009 2:59 AM
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