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Question about my response to his petition.

It has been such a hard day.  Ended up having ice cream for lunch and watching, "You've Got Mail".  

Anyway, I finally signed the response to petition for divorce from my husband yesterday. Just read what will be sent to his attorney.   He will be so mad when he sees it, because it says that he will pay for my attorney, I get primary custody (he told me he wanted that), split debt (I have been the only one using our card the last 6 months) and that he will pay alimony.  Is that the same as child support?    His petition was also sloppy (as my attorney said) and named my children with their nicknames and one of the birthdays was wrong.  It also stated that he said separation was in June and I said April (that is when he told me he did not want to be married). Not sure if that counts or not because he was still in and out of the house.  

Seems to me I have a pretty hard ass attorney who hopefully is in my interest, but obviously wants to make money.  Question is  (I feel stupid writing this), but should I go over my response with him so we can get the arguing done without paying for it?  

My attorney is not in the office and I will be talking to her before they go to his attorney.  I do need help.  Worried about money.  I want to keep the house and that is mainly because of the kids.   Thanks for your help.

by 123   1906 Posts
Posted on 1/7/2009 5:43 PM

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I just logged on and wish you all the best.

I think I'd probably be watching 'Sideways,' tho...
:-)
by Natalie   729 Posts
Posted on 1/8/2009 11:55 AM
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Thanks Spaz, Soon after I wrote this I called a friend of mine who is an attorney and she told me the same thing.  I was in panic mode.
by 123   1906 Posts
Posted on 1/7/2009 8:27 PM
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...well, except for You've Got Mail?!?!?  A Meg Ryan/Tom Hanks romantic comedy?!?!?  You should be eating chili and watching the Die Hard trilogy during this period in your life.
by lenn   2653 Posts
Posted on 1/7/2009 7:36 PM
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First, Spaz is right--and honestly, if you're not clear on the difference between alimony and child support, you should not be negotiating with stbx directly.  Your attorney is fighting for your interests--that is his very ethic

Second, *hugs*.  That's all I can offer to you now.  I wish I could give more, but you're in waters that I do not know.
by lenn   2653 Posts
Posted on 1/7/2009 7:35 PM
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alimony is not child suport - it is YOU support over and above child support.

Generally what happens is that both of you petition/respond with more than you reasonably expect to get and then sit down in mediation and hash it out to a middle ground.

I don't advise negotiating with your ex until AFTER you have responded to his petition. For now it is just words on paper, nothing ordered nothing specific - your attorney has a strategy, and by discussing it with your ex prior, you could damage that strategy IF it turns ugly.
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 1/7/2009 7:17 PM
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I caution you that the harder and longer that you fight for what's "right", the less there will be for both of you.  If you truly want to win, you need to find a middle ground with him and stick to it with your attorneys if possible.  If he is insisting on fighting, then take off the gloves and duke it out, but beware the consequences.  My stbx has paid $8000 to try to milk me for every dime when she quit her job and isn't trying to find another comperable one.  She is responsible for that debt, not me.  I will always take care of my kids, but she's out of luck.
by DJPO   599 Posts
Posted on 1/7/2009 5:53 PM
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