I'm really hoping for some help here. My husband and I are divorcing and telling the kids tonight or tomorrow. Last summer I found out that he was having an affair and had been drinking for sveral years, when I thought he was sober. At that time, we separated and my husband went into treatment (for the 7th time). He stopped seeing his girlfriend when he got out of treatment and we started seeing a couples counselor. We were separated for about six months while trying to figure out if we could stay married. We told the kids (8 and 10) that Dad was drinking and it made him sick, and he had to go away for a while to get better; and the reason we were separating is because sometimes when someone is sick like he was they make bad choices that affect their relationship. Nothing was ever said about the affair. They now know what an alcoholic is, and we've talked about it a lot. We decided to basically re-write the script of our marriage, and he moved back. Things were good between us. 4 months after he moved home, he took a job in another state and almost immediately relapsed. He is also involved with the same woman again, which is what led me to believe it's time to call it quits.I want to tell them that Dad cannot stay sober right now, and for that reason it is best for our family if we divorce.He wants to tell them that we're divorcing because we don't get along.Any suggestions? Feedback? Anything? The only thing I want to add is this: I feel very strongly that we never bad mouth each other in front of the kids, and I want them to have a great relationship with him. I feel very bad for him and what this disease is doing to his life. That being said, I hate the idea of giving the kids the impression that it is OK to divorce simply because you "don't get along anymore".
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