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My wife is leaving town this Friday to be with her old boyfriend. Should I try to stop it? Should I say that I know?

The title there pretty much says it all.

From a legal, moral, and self-dignity perspective, should I continue to pretend that I don't know about it and allow it to happen? I have plenty of evidence. If I let her know that I know then she knows I was snooping and I guess the jig is up and she commits adultery anyway. If I don't do anything, I have to live with myself for the rest of my life knowing I knowingly did nothing to try to prevent my wife from hooking up with someone else.

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by Cramer   4 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 1:33 PM
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I'm not sure what the legal ramifications of adultrey are in your state, if it's a no-fault state than it won't really matter.  Personally, I'd tell her that I know what's going on, and that if she leaves she needn't bother coming back.  But you probably shouldn't listen to me, I've screwed my own marriage up enough, don't need to screw up yours.
by HurtingDadOfKids   10 Posts
Posted on 1/6/2009 2:22 AM
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"..." - The advice that has been posted is very good... May I suggest going to the attorney without making the statement about your knowledge or intent... It is obvious, based on your information within the post, that your spouse has already taken leave of the marriage; and, you may be much better off working on a totally different strategy that will have her impacted by the consequences of her actions to be...
by bp   1239 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 4:53 PM
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I'd listen to spaz and more than just the the attorney advice.  Outing an affair changes the whole dynamic. 

I hope you find peace but for the near term you are going to have some rough times.  Read what's out here and another website I'd suggest is www.survivinginfidelity.com.  Go to their reading library for some great articles on dealing with affairs.
by falcon81   377 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 4:45 PM
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If I was in your shoes I'd probably confront her and warn her that "if you walk out that door things are going to be a lot different when you get home, if you have a home to come home to"...

The thursday before she goes I'd be at the attorneys office getting divorce papers drawn up that give you exclusive use of the marital home.
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 2:53 PM
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